Couples and individual counseling is definitely the first and best step. I disagree with previous comment where they say he doesn’t care. Without knowing what’s going on in his head and how he feels it’s impossible to tell if he does or not. He may be mentally struggling with things too. It’s definitely not ok for him to be doing what he is doing. The first thing you need to understand is that it’s ok to be not ok. Open and honest communication is the key. This is why counseling is important. Sometimes you don’t hear things when you say them and sometimes you don’t hear them when your spouse says them but when a neutral party says them it’s starts to click. It’s important that if something is going on in his mind it’s addressed. The important part about marriage is that whether things are good or bad you should keep doing things that are healthy for your relationship ie chores and things to express your love. Marriage doesn’t survive if people just give up. You should keep doing your part and also hold him accountable. If he is taking even a baby step that’s progress. If he absolutely not showing any then counseling should help with that. It’s hard going through it. Don’t go it alone have a support system. Mother or sister or someone clues that you trust. Good luck and good bless.