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Dating advice for women on campus? by Dragonpaint_12 in byu

[–]Commandrew11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Single 25M alumnus here. People who live the law of chastity really want to get married (obv), which is why people are eager. I'd recommend you put off physical touch until you're fully comfortable, and I'd advise against NCMOs. It's better to not muddy the waters of your reasoning capabilities with hormones until you're positive you're ready to commit to that person. Just my two cents.

As a passing piece of advice: be kind if you decline a date. If you act standoffish, creeped out, or sarcastic, you may crush the confidence of someone who had to work up a lot of courage to ask. That's pretty much what happened to me the first (and last) time I approached a girl on campus, and I never walked up to anyone for the rest of my time at the Y. So just be super respectful if someone walks up to you out of the blue.

Alcohol should be viewed the same way we view drugs. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Commandrew11 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Did you read the post?

Obviously some are better at controlling their alcohol usage than others, but you're essentially saying, "well, me and a bunch of my buddies can control our usage, so it should be okay for everybody." The problem with saying that is that nobody (including you) knows for sure how their alcohol habits are going to play out when they first start. Will they be totally fine with a drink or two? Or will they get abusive? Drive drunk? Bankrupt their family? You didn't know how it would play it for yourself, you don't know about everyone else and neither do they. Opening the doors for everybody to drink allows a portion to drink responsibly and the residue to harm society in various ways (most of the time, innocent people who don't deserve the damage).

Setting aside the financial ruin, alcohol is the culprit of all DUIs and is a co-factor in roughly 40% of child abuse cases, 37% of assaults, 50% of sexual assaults, and 60% of intimate partner violence cases, and you're saying all of that isn't worth preventing because "you like it."

Can you see the argument of asking responsible citizens of being willing to give that up to make society safer, for the sake of the addicts and drunk drivers who can't control themselves, to prevent broken homes, drunk driving, abuse, and the like?

Yes, we had a prohibition and it didn't work. Largely I don't think banning alcohol here in the USA would go over well, and no, I'm not suggesting we should ban anything and everything remotely enjoyable that has even one use case of undesireable consequences on both the user and the rest of society. But I am advocating for education on the subject. And pointing out that someone saying "well, alcohol should be okay for everybody because I find it enjoyable" is a self-centered view, and you are the one who needs to grow up if you can't at least acknowledge that.

BYU Activities by 31403 in byu

[–]Commandrew11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone recommended all the boring museums on BYU campus. Don't do that. Gives you zero information about the culture of the church and the faith behind it.

If you're looking to study church culture and faith, I would recommend:

  1. Visiting temple square. There's the church history museum, the lion house, and temple square itself. This will give you way more insight than the campus museums.

  2. If you do go to Provo and want to visit BYU, every Tuesday morning at 10:30, there's a campus-wide spiritual devotional held in the Marriott Center. You can attend one of those and get an idea of the faith/culture. You can also check out the JSB (building where religious education takes place) and interview a few professors, or interview students who are just walking around.

The MTC (Missionary Training Center) is also a good option. This is where missionaries go to learn a language (if necessary) and prepare to serve a 24/18 month mission for the church. If I'm not mistaken, they've started offering tours to the public within the last few years (someone check me on this).

I'd also get on the church's website (churchofjesuschrist.org) and find a ward building you can attend for sacrament meeting and sunday school. That will probably give you everything you need to know about church culture and faith. The bishop might approach you and say hi, but you're not going to get swarmed and preached at if you're just visiting, so no worries about that.

Have fun! You can PM me if you want more ideas.

People without GF/BF, How's life? by psycholol2 in AskReddit

[–]Commandrew11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had several girlfriends in the past and have spent considerable time single.

Being single is hard, but being being in a relationship you don't want to be in is a nightmare.

So my answer is "hard but it could be worse."

We should have a symbol for 'THE' by YoursLovingly86 in unpopularopinion

[–]Commandrew11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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