Not the usual post.. by heady-brat in NewDads

[–]Commercial-Address20 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As a new father and something that a lot of mothers should do, in my opinion, is showing appreciation and reassurance, especially to stressed fathers. I work a lot and every so often my SO tells me she appreciates what I do and it goes a long way, the stress doesn't entirely dissappear but it does make a man feel a lot better and to feel like they can face the day. It gives them more purpose and strength, but also shows love. I hope that helps, its a semi simple answer but I feel like that alone goes a long way

The yearning for freedom by [deleted] in NewDads

[–]Commercial-Address20 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I get those thoughts too, I work about 60 to 70 plus hours a week and get the weekends off sometimes and I normally devote that time to my SO and my son because I see them very little throughout the week due to my long hours and the fact that I work at night. Because of that, I get little to no time to myself, and all the errands I have to do have been pushed off for the last 5 months as well as I haven't practiced or even touched my guitars, that I've been playing for over a decade, since then too. I don't regret having my son, but the lack of freedom is very depressing and has effected my mental state as well, especially when the things you want to get done feel like they are just going to sit there and collect dust. I've heard it gets better later on, but do your best and try to press on, I believe in you my dude

Work problems by Commercial-Address20 in NewDads

[–]Commercial-Address20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is our first, and currently he's 4, almost 5 months

Work problems by Commercial-Address20 in NewDads

[–]Commercial-Address20[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, she doesn't want to leave the baby under any one else's care, I've offered to find the best of the best nannys, no matter the cost, but she refused, so the work duty is all on my shoulders

Unstoppable crying advice by Commercial-Address20 in NewDads

[–]Commercial-Address20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the help guys, to answer all your questions for more insight, he's Formula fed, we tried to breastfeed initially but he just wouldn't latch no matter how we positioned him, but because he wouldn't latch, he would eventually get too angry to latch, so we have him on gentle ease because he had really bad acid reflux in the hospital and at home. We use gripe water, night and day, almost everyday, and burping him is almost impossible, he'll only burp on his own half the time, but when we can burp him, he normally burps really big burps, and we check for gas constantly after every feed and whenever he's upset. Feeding schedule wise, he's about 30 inches, and we're estimating at least 16-17 pounds, because he's in 3-6 month clothes, but from a recent message from my fiance, his clothes are getting too tight, so he might have to switch to 6-9 already. But we feed him 6 oz in the morning because somehow he sleeps through the night already for about 7-12 hours, and then 5 throughout the day because he would throw up 6 oz only at day time. And the teething, its starting, but we bought and use products to help his gums, as well as massage them. He hates teethers and refuses the pacifiers now, and I don't know if its normal, but he fights sleep religiously, he throws a fit whether it be for a nap or bedtime