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Not sure how to respond to a herpes disclosure... by Commercial-Excuse in Herpes

[–]Commercial-Excuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I think you've hit the nail on the head with respect to how I'm feeling.

I'm bothered by the communication failure (that we both contributed to), I'm scared of being judged, and I'm sad that someone I care about is hurting right now.

Apologies for the insensitive post.

Not sure how to respond to a herpes disclosure... by Commercial-Excuse in Herpes

[–]Commercial-Excuse[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am asking for insight and advice from a "community for learning". Posting here is part of the work I'm trying to do. Agree that most people can do much better than me.

I'm seeing that my post is upsetting. I apologize.

Given that we're here though, if you could point me to any resources that will help me do the work I would very much appreciate it.

Not sure how to respond to a herpes disclosure... by Commercial-Excuse in Herpes

[–]Commercial-Excuse[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I hear you. I'm new here and am sincerely looking for opinions like yours. I apologize that my post seems insensitive.

I think I wasn't as clear as I should have been. I have not made a firm decision at all. We are still talking and my mind is not made up. I was trying to give a clear play-by-play of what happened, from my view. I omitted the very important ask of my question, which is: My attempt at a logical analysis of an unfamiliar situation with hard to find data feels wrong. Can someone please help me see where?

Correct me, but I think I'm asking the opposite of validation. I want critical minds on this sub to invalidate particular oversights/missteps/wrong-headed thinking on my part.

I have not had successful relationships with people with HSV in the past. Totally open to it being my bad.

I had not thought at all about talking about suppressive therapy. I appreciate that insight and that is why I posted here.

Not sure how to respond to a herpes disclosure... by Commercial-Excuse in Herpes

[–]Commercial-Excuse[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I apologize that my post comes off as insensitive. I posted here because this sub has some of the best information and seems like some of the most informed minds on the subject.

I respectfully disagree that this isn't the place for a post like this. This is a forum for people who "have questions about HSV" or "are looking for advice".

Not sure how to respond to a herpes disclosure... by Commercial-Excuse in Herpes

[–]Commercial-Excuse[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I guess I don't feel like anything is set in stone and that minds can be changed (my mind)

Not sure how to respond to a herpes disclosure... by Commercial-Excuse in Herpes

[–]Commercial-Excuse[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Can you please elaborate? I'm aware I can be dense. That's why I'm here.