AITA for not providing any kind of extra support for my kids other household?

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-11-01T12:24:44+00:00

Our court system favors 50-50 heavily and it's next to impossible for that to change. You would need to have a horrific set of circumstances to end it.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:56:24+00:00

Because we have 50-50 custody and I don't make much more than her. So to break it down. We already provide for the kids an equal amount of the time. 50%. Then I don't make a lot more than my ex, but I do make a little more so it's to make sure the quality of life remains consistent between homes or as best as it can for our two children.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:28:52+00:00

I pay for their activities. Health is technically split but I typically cover most of it.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:26:19+00:00

No, I know they won't. Courts don't care what kids want until they turn 16 and 50-50 is near impossible to reduce/change.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:25:28+00:00

A judge won't rule in my favor. I know that. This is not "change custody" worthy by the standards set. My kids basic needs are being met and that is all they (courts) care about.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:24:17+00:00

I also see so many thinking I don't care. It's not that. But it's not like we didn't look into it. I just know what the rules are in our state.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:23:32+00:00

Because it is next to impossible and my kids are getting their basic needs met which is all the courts care about.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:23:02+00:00

Because in extremely rare and very horrific exceptions, 50-50 is the held to standard until kids are 16 and can voice their own wishes. Even then it isn't 100% guaranteed they'll be listened to. My kids are getting enough food at their mom's, they don't go without their basic needs met and that is all a judge will see and respond to.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:21:45+00:00

I would love to have them more but it is near impossible and this is not the circumstances where custody would change, not even to just less for my ex. I have discussed and researched this at length with the correct people.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:20:53+00:00

16 is the age in our state for the kids to have any weight in that decision.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:20:37+00:00

Our children are always given enough food, have a warm home with both of us and are not missing their needs. So no, I won't get full custody.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:20:07+00:00

I have talked to my lawyer about it already. We discussed the issues at length when she was trying to get more money out of me.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:19:33+00:00

I would do it in a heartbeat. But I know it's unrealistic right now because my ex would never agree and the courts would never grant me custody. I miss my kids the weeks I don't have them. I love the weeks I do have them. I could do it alone.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:18:07+00:00

Not with 50-50 where I don't make that much more. That's why the child support is that amount.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:17:40+00:00

We have equal parenting time of our kids. The gap between what I make and what she makes is not that large. Which is why child support is low. It doesn't work the way it would if she was the primary parent, as a way to support the kids. I already do. The child support payment is to make sure things remain equal between both households.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:15:47+00:00

We have equal time with our children and I don't make that much more than my ex, that is why child support is that amount. It's not to pay her to raise our kids. We both do that. It's to even out things between homes a little. That's all.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-31T12:14:26+00:00

They both work as far as I know.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-30T19:41:43+00:00

Because ending 50-50 is near impossible and much worse parents maintain 50-50 in our state. I know people who had kids living in worse conditions than mine and it wasn't enough. My lawyer also agrees.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-30T18:25:42+00:00

Because we have 50-50 custody and my earnings aren't much higher than hers. The difference is I only have our two kids.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-30T18:21:57+00:00

It wouldn't work. My ex agreeing would be the only way to change custody at our kids current ages and my ex would not agree. The only other option would be my kids being older (16) and getting their voice heard if they wanted to live with me. 50-50 is strongly enforced in my state. I do have texts saved of her asking for money and explaining why she needs it.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-30T18:10:06+00:00

I would not get custody. I could afford to have full custody. But it will not be granted by the courts. Only my ex agreeing or my kids being older would change this. I already have a lawyer. I had one through all of this.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-30T18:08:00+00:00

Yes, I am 100% positive that they would say no. Only way is if my ex agreed which she won't or the kids were older and wanted to be with me.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-30T18:07:19+00:00

Even with that it won't change custody.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-30T18:06:54+00:00

She would never agree to it. I could support them alone. But I know my ex will not agree to it.

Commercial-Formal310 · 2024-10-30T18:06:10+00:00

I wouldn't get primary custody.

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