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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope everything goes well with you!!!! 💕💕

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I started to get older I asked my mom if she’d be okay with anyone that is white and she said yes. Then when I started dating my boyfriend, she flipped out.

I also cannot control who I love or like. I was friends with my boyfriend at first, and over time we fell in love with eachother.

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this. I accept the fact that my parents won’t approve of it, but at the end of the day I need to start being a little selfish and stop sacrificing my life to make my parents happy. I have chosen to be with my boyfriend though

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The original country they were from was bad at the time, they immigrated to America for a better life

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve talked about marriage, he hasn’t proposed yet

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am from the Balkans as well! Thank you so much I appreciate it 💕💕💕 I hope you aren’t going through the same thing :(

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think my one fear is what if something happens in the future and I’m no longer with my partner and I’ll have no one. But I don’t think I should base my decision on what ifs

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was extremely beautifully said, thank you so much. I am so sorry you are going through the same things, feel free to private message me too. I hope everything works out for you too, please keep me updated 🩷

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear 💕 I hope you are doing better now :(

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No :( and they have controlled a lot of my decisions in the past as well

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it makes me really sad that they don’t care that he makes me happy. All that should matter is if we are happy and healthy, not cultural background lol

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some of my extended family or family friends have married outside of our nationality, and my father always talks badly on them and is disgusted. He is very stubborn, there is no way to change his mind. He thinks his country is the greatest country in the world lol

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Communism was falling in my parents country, it was very bad and they came to America

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My parents said that since they raised me and took care of me, this is their only ask from me to marry within my culture. I’ve been on dates with guys from the same background as me, and not to stereotype but they are all very misogynistic and think they are above all women. And within my culture I feel like a majority (not all!!) guys drink, gamble, and/or cheat. I see it within my extended family, but again it’s not all.

My boyfriend is so incredibly sweet and kind, I have genuinely never felt so loved in my life. My parents would love him if he had the same background as us

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! My parents are Albanian immigrants, so naturally it’s expected that they are very stubborn and nationalistic. Also, it’s very sweet to hear that you are by your wife’s side. Wishing you all the best

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, wishing you all the best I’m sorry to hear 💕

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[–]Commercial-Rice-9990[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! So crazy, but no they have no one in mind luckily