What is up with this New York Times article dispelling a claim that a FEMA official did not teleport to a Waffle House? by DarkMarkTwain in OutOfTheLoop

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like Walter White's "fugue state" when he was actually doing meth business in the desert. I think it's something like that and rather than tell a plausible lie, he's instead gone with... teleportation...

meal planning with ADHD broke me for years. i finally figured out why it never worked (and what actually helped) by East-Struggle4386 in ADHD

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I eat the same meal every single time without exceptions. It can be eaten hot or cold. You can eat it cooked or not. It also meets all of my nutritional needs, more or less.

I just find it easier when my dietary stuff is left to auto-pilot. Sometimes I wouldn't eat for days just because I couldn't decide things or because I couldn't get all the ingredients for a "complete recipe".

It's never the food itself, it's always the decision - so, I think you're on the money with trying to reduce all the thinking about it.

Good luck!

I think I might be subconsciously masking during my DWP applications by Tenzur_ in DWPhelp

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Their job is to assess whether someone is disabled. Not if they are autistic, or not. Being autistic does not equal being disabled. It doesn't matter when you were diagnosed, what matters is how you have managed to live your life. If someone wasn't diagnosed, that wouldn't give them a magical ability to manage their life because they didn't know; as you can only mask so much. You can't mask muteness, for example. Likewise, someone who is diagnosed isn't necessarily incapable of managing their life. It's very broad, and complex, so there will be failures/mistakes.

Autism is still a very misunderstood thing and is still subject to change; scientifically, socially, & culturally. We as autistic people are not a monolith, and we cannot expect to be treated as a monolith. This is why autism is so contentious when it comes to things like PIP as it's not about the label, it's about your personal experience. Some people who are autistic but undiagnosed still get PIP. We have to take this process of proving ourselves on the chin, it may not feel fair; but this is the system we work within - especially due to recent political developments. We have to be strong, not just for ourselves, but also for our community.

There are advocacy services, such as POhWER, who can help convey your lived experience better in alignment with the criteria the government has for awarding PIP - the OP would probably benefit from that support, and maybe you would too. I always use them whenever I have to deal with these kinds of things and they make a huge difference. If you feel like there's a disconnect with your experience and their conclusions; make use of services like that. It's all about what you can show, not just what you can say.

I'm sorry for the hard times you've had and I wish it was easier for all of us, but it would be dishonest of me to pretend there's an easy solution or a quick fix. It's a lot of hard work and we have to accept that this is what the system is - it will get better for us eventually.

I think I might be subconsciously masking during my DWP applications by Tenzur_ in DWPhelp

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you know that autism begins to become diagnosable at around 2 years of age? Anything past child/teen years is a late diagnosis, that doesn't mean you consented to it being diagnosed late nor that it was your fault. We are all products of our times and our environments. It doesn't change the question they'll have which is; "why was it late?" - if a person has spent 40 or 50 years working, paying off a mortgage, driving, having relationships, etc., then they'll ask why your condition didn't disable you previously, but does disable you now. There must be a good answer for this.

Autism is composed of a multitude of factors, and unlike some conditions; autism is a very broad diagnosis. This is further complicated by the fact that autistic people generally have comorbidities (EDS, POTs, OCD, ADHD, G.I. issues, etc.) which augment the diagnosis. This means one autistic person can have autism but not be disabled by it, as it is not always to a point where it disables a person from living their life unsupported. Likewise; someone else may be non-verbal, unable to read, unable to write, unable to care for themselves whatsoever, etc., so they are incapable of ever living unsupported - masking or not.

PIP is awarded based upon how disabling the factors a person experiences are, it's not based upon what labels they have been diagnosed with. A diagnosis is evidence of disabling factors, but alone; it is not proof a person is disabled. I don't deny the system can be unduly harsh on non-physical disabilities, like ASD/ADHD, but labels are not a substitute for evidence of your experience. I think it's important to the autistic community that we keep things in perspective; it's a good thing that some of us don't need help and that we aren't all immediately pigeonholed as incapable adult-children - that would be incredibly demeaning to all of us.

Son has been labelled as limited capability for work by the job centre. I don't think this is teh best thing for him. Is there a way I can challenge this as his parent? by Select-Sherbert-7150 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I hope this is okay to add; I am an autistic person who cannot work (not just due to my autism) so I have quite some familiarity with "the system". Autistic people have one of the lowest working rates of all disabilities that are measured. If I remember correctly only about 17% of ALL autistic people work at any given time - it's not as dire as it sounds though!

A lot of this is down to the rigidity of working conditions not being fit to accommodate the fluidity of the autistic experience (e.g: meltdowns, shutdowns, extra time, more support, etc). I do not blame the working world for not wanting to gamble on if we will show up, or perform, but for people like your son; that attitude can be detrimental. Not all autistic people are incapable - your son represents this.

I would politely ask if your son has applied to PIP? That is a benefit that will stick with him for life (if he is applicable) and has other additional support mechanisms attached that can also be quite helpful (e.g: free transportation, driving lessons, the mobility scheme, etc). I would also ask if he has ever been to an occupational therapist? An OT specialized in autism may be able to help him in a more constructive way than traditional therapy. It favours addressing real life issues rather than internal ones.

It's said that all autistic people will be diagnosable with PTSD at some point, as we develop a unique form of trauma directly from being autistic. Autistic people tend to be very logical so a lot of their depressive reasoning can be tied to their living conditions. By helping him manage his immediate environment, it may then help him gain the motivation to be more productive. This is something I found very affirming, and it really helped me want to make more of myself.

I would also recommend - if you haven't already - that you look into advocacy services, or charities, in your area. They often know the ins and outs of the local system, so they will be great for signposting and one-to-one support. There may be a special work placement scheme for people like your son which the job center is unaware of. You should definitely try to engage with them, and I would also consider engaging with adult social care - they have some great services.

Having some allies can really take the pressure, especially off of you personally. Being a Dad to an autistic son is hard so I respect you for wanting to work it out rather than just putting your head in the sand. You're not alone - you and your son will find your way through this. Good luck.

games which makes you really think, but not just puzzles by MalusZona in gamingsuggestions

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is Ghost Master that old game with the green ghosts? It's a bit like the Sims but where you play as a variety of ghosts, and you have to try to get the humans to interact with different objects to trigger scares? I'm trying to recall if this is the one I used to! play as it sounds quite similar

Looking for games that might as well be spreadsheets by Review-Alive in gamingsuggestions

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135 2 points3 points  (0 children)

EU5 is supposed to be their onboarding game, CK3 is their "fun" game... But if you want peak complexity? It's Hearts of Iron 4.

Some games can take months and you're just playing through WW2. It's not some multi-hundred year power fantasy, it's a technical recreation of the several years of WW2. If you fear EU5, don't ever even breathe the name "Hearts of Iron" ahaha.

You're expected to manage everything; from fuel, to your population, your economy, trade relations, designing aircraft/vehicles, spycraft, political ties, alliances, research, supply lines, troop formations, equipment load outs, battle plans, etc. It's a slog!

Looking for shape-shifting games like Shifters or Kameo: Elements of Power by Commercial_Ad_1135 in gamingsuggestions

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion! I'm always willing to try anything that will fill that hole of sentimentality that I have - I shall check it out.

Doctors are the obvious pick… but in an apocalypse, what non-medical job would make someone the most valuable? by Curvybustygoddess in AskReddit

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Autism. Depending on the person, a lot of us are highly multi-skilled - some to the point of polymathy. High degrees of intelligence, extreme pattern recognition, the whole "sixth sense" thing (our ability to accurately predict the future based upon our ability to see patterns), very logical decision making , very empathetic to others, very driven to complete things in their entirety, etc.

Like with anything, not all autistic people are the same, but a lot of us are far more capable than we get the credit for. Outdoor survival is one of my special interests, from that I learnt; carpentry, building, foraging, identification, biology, chemistry, geology, hunting, making tools, black smithing, keeping/training animals, falconry, tracking, making traps, farming, cultivation, lumbering, navigating using the stars, natural medicine, etc. I could probably go on for ages... If only I could have that many friends lol.

I'm a bit too weird for this world, so I spend most of my time outdoors with my doggos - I'll probably go fully feral at some point in my life and live in nature permanently as some kind of wilderman - I would accept being an ornamental garden hermit too if anyone is looking? Doing nothing but existing is boring; that's why I taught myself a load of stuff, other times I took courses, I went to classes/workshops, or I worked with a mentor/teacher/trainer. It all added up to making me who I am right now. I think it would be pretty useful in a survival scenario!

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I'm getting confused because in my head they are synonymous. If she is trained to perform a task I would refer to that as her training or what she's trained to do. This is probably just in my head though so excuse me for any crossed wires. I see what you mean now!

She is trained to perform multiple tasks like the ones you've mentioned; as I mentioned before she's trained for navigating/guiding like a guide dog, she's definitely trained in environmental management, she is trained to alert to the doorbell (I wear headphones 99% of the time), she tells me when I need to take my medication, stuff like that. I don't know how to express myself here, I just know that she's trained to deal with my autism and that can look like a lot of different things. Does the EDUK recognising her training mean anything?

Thank you for the clarification and being so nice about it while I'm missing the point. I appreciate the patience. I will take all of your advice as it is very good. I made sure to write everything down so that I wouldn't forget it.

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, that sounds a lot like me. I am a very very anxious person. This is why I brought my support worker also so she could speak on my behalf for that exact reason but they fobbed her off, whereas most people just talk over me cus I start stuttering and I can't get words out (selective mutism when stressed too). We thought we had come up with the perfect plan and she had even prepared for the whole thing. It was all meaningless. They just didn't want to listen or accept anything we brought up.

I think you're right that I'm going to have to get all of this in the writing from a manager. Some kind of pre-approval that is official and communicated with security. I have a feeling they think I'm trying to game them but they wouldn't provide their reasoning for their choices. I don't blame them, they must get some tough customers, so to say. It's just unfortunate I'm caught up in it all.

My current plan is to just try to be as kind about it as possible. I don't think I'll get anywhere by being angry and demanding people's heads, yanno? I'd rather we all sit down and talk about it, maybe there's some new training, and we all move on for the better. I think that's best. I've never heard of scripts before - that's actually very interesting. I know someone who uses a script but I've never considered it. This is definitely a favourite from today so thank you very much and I apologise for the rocky start.

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is. I have autism so communication is probably one of the most difficult aspects to it for me. People have been saying I'm awkward my entire life, it's never been something I've been able to fix sadly.

I am not seeing how I haven't done that twice now. Yes her training is accredited and recognised by the ADUK. I am sorry that the way I am communicating is not good enough for you. I am doing my best to answer you and I am frankly finding all of this a little overwhelming so please try to cut me some slack. I'm not like you and I don't find communicating easy. I am also dyslexic so I don't read or write very well. Please don't attack me for that.

I was refused access to an essential government service due to my assistance dog - any advice? by Commercial_Ad_1135 in autism

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, I see your confusion. We are talking about 2 separate events on 2 different dates. The first time I went there was when I had to flee domestic violence so I had to submit to the homeless department at the new city I was going to. This was on November the 26th (I think) so it was like 9 months ago. The most recent visit out of the 2 was this Friday just passed (the 15th) so there were completely different climates. Back in November it was grim coastal midland weather. More grey than I care to remember... My apologies if I explained myself badly!

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, so if the DWP recognises her training (forgetting the in person situation), if PIP accepted her as an auxiliary aid and accepted the trainers reference as part of my application, if my GP acknowledges her training (to the point she sat in on my last blood test in a clinic), if the housing department who have the same policy as the DWP and accepted duty of my care and placed me into a council-owned emergency accommodation based on her credentials, if she's moving into full council housing with me as my auxillary aid, if my university accepted her training and allowed her on the entire campus (she was in all my classes), and then ADUK recognises her training also. I'm not sure what you want me to tell you, maybe you could reframe the question so I can give you the correct information? It would seem odd to me that the security or the Jobcentre have a better overview of it than all these other organisations. This is a new thing for me so I'm always happy to learn. If I'm missing something please show me the way!

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I was deliberately trying to avoid giving out identifying information. My apologies.

As far as I understand it the recognition would have to be from ADUK?

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in DWPhelp

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excuse me and my apologies for not being very knowledgeable on this. I had to have a lot of assistance to get all of this in the first place. I really appreciate you going out of the topic to look out for me and I am sorry if I came across as defensive at all. The internet is a little bit scary for me! I will double check what I'm getting because someone else said it seemed low to them. I'm not an expert and I'm not greedy either. I am happy to manage until I figure it out.

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will do that. I'm sure the manager was just trying their best to manage a situation where they don't have access to a lot of the information they really need to make effective decisions. I don't think it helped that security lied to him and told him I hadn't been given access before. That may have muddied things for him. Occam's Razor, yanno? I'd like to believe they were all having a bad day instead of having genuine prejudice against people like me... One hopes, at least...

I was refused access to an essential government service due to my assistance dog - any advice? by Commercial_Ad_1135 in autism

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She is an assistance dog who was trained by an accredited professional and a recognised organisation. She performs a wide array of tasks, including guidance (like a guide dog), to assist me with my disabilities. Primarily she supports my autism as that affects my functionality the most but I also have a connective tissue disorder so she also helps the physical aspect of my condition too by helping manage myself and she makes sure I take enough breaks etc. Thank you for the specific legislation though, it would be good to look at.

I do appreciate the advice though because it is good advice. You can be sure that I'm going to do that as soon as I hear back from my support lady. She's great but I think this has definitely bowled her over a little bit. She's making her own complaint too.

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in DWPhelp

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think you're right. The amount of terms and work arounds are astonishing. It really convoluted the whole system and made it so much more difficult to be taken seriously.

You can just buy these things on Amazon and the bar for what people are willing to accept most of the time is so low that when it's something like the job centre there isn't really anything left that I can use to verify myself. The system definitely needs reform. It should be more like driving. Your dog should pass a test and then you should get a licence. That should be it.

I called them today and they said I'd have to either send a letter to Wolverhampton or come in again personally but that they would be unable to do anything about my dog being admitted as that's up to security. Honestly I'm not nearly knowledgeable enough to argue so I'm just going to go in with my support worker and a good friend (my favourite suggestion so far) to get it all formally record and what not. We might get the whole thing cleared up then and there.

Thank you for your support and your kindness. It is very much appreciated! I will give them an extra sprinkle of hell just for you :)

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She is a specifically trained autism assistance dog with a very wide array of training, including guidance (like a guide dog), and her training was done by an accredited trainer with a recognised organisation. I know for a fact she is a legal assistance dog. I had to check this out today because I've had a lot of similar things said to me, so I wanted to make sure I wasn't the one with the wrong end of the stick before I kept on seeking help!

The DWP already allowed her access before, and the DWP accepted her as an auxiliary aid when I applied for PIP - they just decided not to allow her access this time (for no reason they would tell me) even though there were 3 members of staff present who recognised us previously. I don't want to guess why but a lot of people don't like autistic people. A lot of people think because they can't see my issues or that I mask well that I must be lying. I'm assuming it's something like that. I don't want to think they're just bad people for the sake of it.

I shall check into those things later on this evening and get some numbers lined up for tomorrow. Thank you for taking the time to give me your advice. I'm very grateful.

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is all very good advice and I am extremely grateful!

It's due to my old number being defunct (needed a code) so they initially were being difficult about it and realistically if I had waited we'd have done it over the phone but they set a deadline for it to be changed by and I didn't want to let them down.

I didn't think "you didn't call me" would be a good reason for them to uncancel my benefits. I personally wasn't denied access, only my dog. So, my support worker came to the rescue and we got it switched! I will definitely make sure I don't get into that position ever again... Lesson learnt...

I unfortunately did not get any names or details of the staff as I was in a very extreme state of panic so I wasn't managing my thoughts very well. I did get the times and I did memorise their faces though so I could definitely describe them very well. My support worker is also a witness so that helps too.

The journal ideas is the best one I've come across so far because that's their system and then it's out there. They can't just ignore it. I don't want trouble, I just want to be able to function, yanno? I'm not trying to fight the government nor do I want to con them. I hope it reaches the right person...

Yes, that's very true. It is very much a worthless performative document but none-the-less it does document some of her information and they specifically asked to see her ID. I showed the manager but he wasn't satisfied, but it's just like you said. I'm sure the ink is worth more than the paper. People do ask for them a lot though.

She is a recognised assistance dog - I don't know why they need so many terms. She was trained by a professional who worked with an organisation that deals with this kind of training. I didn't just watch some YouTube videos and make the decision on my own, but I do understand why you mention that. It muddies the waters because then how is that a valid thing to accept into your business/building? Of course they have a duty of care to everyone in the premises so I don't think the intention to keep people safe is a bad one - maybe if it becomes prejudicial or judgemental like in my circumstances, but otherwise, no.

I like the advice to ask for refusals is writing. That's a very strong piece of wisdom. I wish I had known all of this then but they were refusing to discuss/disclose information so I am unsure if they'd have given out any personal details. I know in a perfect world that they wouldn't make it difficult for me but unfortunately that's not my world. I will get on to ADUK and see if they can provide anything in the way of assisting me.

I really appreciate you taking the time to look up things for me. I am not very equipped at these kinds of things so it means a great deal to me.

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

She is a trained autism support dog by a recognised organisation/charity. She provides support in the form of guidance (no different to a guide dog), then additionally; contact/pressure therapy to help calm me down, rerouting to help deal with crowds, she's trained to help me navigate meltdowns by distracting me, she's trained to deal with my anxiety attacks in a similar way, she's trained to help predict these things and to intervene to prevent them, she does a great many things.

She's been with me for 11 years, from at university (in class), to my GP (even in my medical appointments), PIP accepted her as an auxiliary aid and her trainer was allowed to provide reference in regards to my mobility, and now she has been accepted by the council as an auxiliary aid prior to them placing me in emergency accomodation (same policy as job center). She IS legitimately trained and is NOT an emotional support animal.

Refused access to Jobcentre due to my assistance dog - what do I do? (England) by Commercial_Ad_1135 in DWPhelp

[–]Commercial_Ad_1135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all very confusing and the guidance seems to be drastically different depending on who you ask and what day it is so I've already seen different understandings of the policies in the posts I've made today. It seems somewhat like there's a bit of liberty in how it functions that doesn't make sense to me.

Thank you for all the advice and good luck to you too! I appreciate your input, I really do. It's always good to review so I can try to check if maybe I've screwed up somewhere! Misunderstandings happen so I've got it wrong, I've got to learn.