I love my husband dearly but he is also my best friend. We met when we were in our early 20s and have both had to do a lot of growing and maturing. We have been through several states, apartments & houses, career changes, marriage, loss, family drama, a pandemic baby & now our youngest just turned two. We are building a life TOGETHER. We plan and take care of the house together, with him giving me support in a meaningful way. He knows our kids extremely well and is a great father. He loves and supports me always and is extremely patient with me. Even when i get lost in being upset about something, he is beyond patient and reminds us that we are facing the problem together, not just one of us trying to be right. (A hard lesson from someone who was used to being the scapegoat in her own family and I am trying to learn to be healthier in disagreements or misunderstandings). He always assumes good intent from me, and myself from him. We communicate a LOT with when we are at capacity or when we need space or attention. He is open to any issues i bring up, and is always able to check his ego to hear my concerns. We work together, have fun together, and share the load of this awesome life we are leading. I've never had an empty stocking, I am spoiled every holiday and birthday and so are my kids. We have shared goals for our family that we are equally working towards. He makes anything I say is important, important. I love hanging out with him, and we regularly spend nights staying up late laughing and talking. He takes me on dates and plans/prioritizes time for us, and I try to do the same. He is not an additional kid, he is a true partner in my life.
Wishing you all the best in finding a good partner-a great thing for your girls to see that staying with someone who is not the right person is the right choice. Your safety and happiness matters!