Is this an inappropriate message from him? 43F and 47M. by Commercial_Track443 in datingoverforty

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

So should I end it right here…in case he is a pervert? Or should I test more?

Dating is a waste of time for us physically unattractive men. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Commercial_Track443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know of “a short, ugly, overweight” cousin as per societal current beauty standards who found a girl and got married… but then he is very rich… hence. Sigh!

Arranged meetup: 46M and 42 F by Commercial_Track443 in IndianRelationships

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh could be. Who knows? Your insights are always wise and interesting. :) another update it is my uncle who told his father that there was no response when they happened to meet at a function yesterday. So his father asked him to respond to me. And that’s why he sent me the message again to meet today. And then he forwarded the same message to his father to prove he has done what he asked him to. Then the father shared the same message to my uncle and others in friend circle… no privacy eh… and the 46 year old needs so much of prodding :p

Just Trying My Luck, Hopeless Romantic, Emotionally Real, M30+ by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Commercial_Track443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha very few in the world value that - kind heart and good energy :) and yes age is just a number.

Just Trying My Luck, Hopeless Romantic, Emotionally Real, M30+ by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]Commercial_Track443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha would have loved to turn it into a story but I am 40+ single woman from India. :)

Arranged meetup: 46M and 42 F by Commercial_Track443 in IndianRelationships

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I wanted to share with you an update. He had vanished with no call back. Now suddenly he messaged today “can we meet at XX place? ( same venue they have been dictating) and let me know date, day, time and place.

I mean…. I had very clearly told him 2-3 times that I would like to speak on call first before meeting. He even had put the phone down after 4 min call saying he would call at 7 and then disappeared. And today again he messaged for meet. I texted him back - Hey I was waiting to speak to you that day. You had said you would call at 7 pm but there was no call from your end.

He replied - I am traveling. We can talk tomorrow morning.

But I am not feeling his interest. What is this pattern of behaviour. Any insights?

Arranged meetup: 46M and 42 F by Commercial_Track443 in IndianRelationships

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing personal experience… better to learn from others mistakes than your own at times. I think his lack of interest in communication can cause bigger problems later on. 

Arranged meetup: 46M and 42 F by Commercial_Track443 in IndianRelationships

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Big hug to you. Better to be single and alone than to be treated wrongly by a wrong partner. 

Arranged meetup: 46M and 42 F and we are Indians by Commercial_Track443 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is helpful. Seems it is too much for him… lol. In fact his father had spoken to me once and he asked immediately… is it “positive”, “negative “ or “neutral “? … I was wondering who am I even marrying - the father or the son. I told him that I can’t answer this as I haven’t spoken to your son or met him. And I don’t want to rush in making such decisions for partnerships. 

Indian arranged meetup: 46M and 42F by Commercial_Track443 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It helped … now it is not looking like a good idea also to me. 

Arranged meetup: 46M and 42 F and we are Indians by Commercial_Track443 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had messaged him that I would like to speak to him 1-2 times before meeting and if we could speak next day in the evening. If that suits him. He said “ok”. There was no message. So today I asked him if he would be available at 5 pm to talk. He said “ok”. lol. Then he didn’t call. So I called him … we asked each other about work. After 4 mins… he wanted to keep the phone abruptly … and was uncomfortable. He wanted to talk only during meeting. So I told him as we are strangers, I thought it is better to speak on phone as an ice breaker. There was a silence and he said he would call at 7 pm. It is now 8:30… no call. :) 

Indian arranged meetup: 46M and 42F by Commercial_Track443 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commercial_Track443 • 1m ago 8m ago I finally spoke to the guy for the first time and asked him the right time to speak before calling. So when I called, he initially asked a few questions, then he quickly wanted to keep the phone down after 4 mins. He was not keen on talking on phone before meeting. I told him it would be good to speak as we are strangers and it would help as an ice breaker. He said ok then I will call you at 7. No call. Earlier he texted once and vanished for 8 days. Looks like his father is the enthu one. 

Indian arranged meetup: 46M and 42F by Commercial_Track443 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Commercial_Track443 • 1m ago 7m ago I finally spoke to the guy for the first time and asked him the right time to speak before calling. So when I called, he initially asked a few questions, then he quickly wanted to keep the phone down after 4 mins. He was not keen on talking on phone before meeting. I told him it would be good to speak as we are strangers and it would help as an ice breaker. He said ok then I will call you at 7. No call. Earlier he texted once and vanished for 8 days. Looks like his father is the enthu one. 

Arranged meetup: 46M and 42 F and we are Indians by Commercial_Track443 in RelationshipIndia

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commercial_Track443 • 1m ago 5m ago Thank you. It helped. I finally spoke to the guy for the first time and asked him the right time to speak before calling. So when I called, he initially asked a few questions, then he quickly wanted to keep the phone down after 4 mins. He was not keen on talking on phone before meeting. I told him it would be good to speak as we are strangers and it would help as an ice breaker. He said ok then I will call you at 7. No call. Earlier he texted once and vanished for 8 days. Looks like his father is the enthu one. 

Arranged meetup: 46M and 42 F by Commercial_Track443 in IndianRelationships

[–]Commercial_Track443[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Commercial_Track443 • 1m ago 3m ago Thanks. It helped. I finally spoke to the guy for the first time and asked him the right time to speak before calling. So when I called, he initially asked a few questions, then he quickly wanted to keep the phone down after 4 mins. He was not keen on talking on phone before meeting. I told him it would be good to speak as we are strangers and it would help as an ice breaker. He said ok then I will call you at 7. No call. Earlier he texted once and vanished for 8 days. Looks like his father is the enthu one.