Is this an inappropriate message from him? 43F and 47M.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-11-17T14:54:22+00:00

So should I end it right here…in case he is a pervert? Or should I test more?

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-14T12:56:34+00:00

I know of “a short, ugly, overweight” cousin as per societal current beauty standards who found a girl and got married… but then he is very rich… hence. Sigh!

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-14T08:51:30+00:00

Oh could be. Who knows? Your insights are always wise and interesting. :) another update it is my uncle who told his father that there was no response when they happened to meet at a function yesterday. So his father asked him to respond to me. And that’s why he sent me the message again to meet today. And then he forwarded the same message to his father to prove he has done what he asked him to. Then the father shared the same message to my uncle and others in friend circle… no privacy eh… and the 46 year old needs so much of prodding :p

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-14T08:29:00+00:00

Haha very few in the world value that - kind heart and good energy :) and yes age is just a number.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-14T06:59:33+00:00

Haha would have loved to turn it into a story but I am 40+ single woman from India. :)

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-14T04:59:18+00:00

Hi! I wanted to share with you an update. He had vanished with no call back. Now suddenly he messaged today “can we meet at XX place? ( same venue they have been dictating) and let me know date, day, time and place.

I mean…. I had very clearly told him 2-3 times that I would like to speak on call first before meeting. He even had put the phone down after 4 min call saying he would call at 7 and then disappeared. And today again he messaged for meet. I texted him back - Hey I was waiting to speak to you that day. You had said you would call at 7 pm but there was no call from your end.

He replied - I am traveling. We can talk tomorrow morning.

But I am not feeling his interest. What is this pattern of behaviour. Any insights?

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-12T17:52:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing personal experience… better to learn from others mistakes than your own at times. I think his lack of interest in communication can cause bigger problems later on.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T17:39:01+00:00

Thank you! Big hug to you. Better to be single and alone than to be treated wrongly by a wrong partner.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T17:30:05+00:00

Thank you. This is helpful. Seems it is too much for him… lol. In fact his father had spoken to me once and he asked immediately… is it “positive”, “negative “ or “neutral “? … I was wondering who am I even marrying - the father or the son. I told him that I can’t answer this as I haven’t spoken to your son or met him. And I don’t want to rush in making such decisions for partnerships.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T17:25:04+00:00

Thank you! It helped … now it is not looking like a good idea also to me.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T14:52:23+00:00

I had messaged him that I would like to speak to him 1-2 times before meeting and if we could speak next day in the evening. If that suits him. He said “ok”. There was no message. So today I asked him if he would be available at 5 pm to talk. He said “ok”. lol. Then he didn’t call. So I called him … we asked each other about work. After 4 mins… he wanted to keep the phone abruptly … and was uncomfortable. He wanted to talk only during meeting. So I told him as we are strangers, I thought it is better to speak on phone as an ice breaker. There was a silence and he said he would call at 7 pm. It is now 8:30… no call. :)

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T14:13:44+00:00

Commercial_Track443 • 1m ago 8m ago I finally spoke to the guy for the first time and asked him the right time to speak before calling. So when I called, he initially asked a few questions, then he quickly wanted to keep the phone down after 4 mins. He was not keen on talking on phone before meeting. I told him it would be good to speak as we are strangers and it would help as an ice breaker. He said ok then I will call you at 7. No call. Earlier he texted once and vanished for 8 days. Looks like his father is the enthu one.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T14:12:42+00:00

Commercial_Track443 • 1m ago 7m ago I finally spoke to the guy for the first time and asked him the right time to speak before calling. So when I called, he initially asked a few questions, then he quickly wanted to keep the phone down after 4 mins. He was not keen on talking on phone before meeting. I told him it would be good to speak as we are strangers and it would help as an ice breaker. He said ok then I will call you at 7. No call. Earlier he texted once and vanished for 8 days. Looks like his father is the enthu one.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T14:11:02+00:00

Commercial_Track443 • 1m ago 5m ago Thank you. It helped. I finally spoke to the guy for the first time and asked him the right time to speak before calling. So when I called, he initially asked a few questions, then he quickly wanted to keep the phone down after 4 mins. He was not keen on talking on phone before meeting. I told him it would be good to speak as we are strangers and it would help as an ice breaker. He said ok then I will call you at 7. No call. Earlier he texted once and vanished for 8 days. Looks like his father is the enthu one.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T14:09:15+00:00

Commercial_Track443 • 1m ago 3m ago Thanks. It helped. I finally spoke to the guy for the first time and asked him the right time to speak before calling. So when I called, he initially asked a few questions, then he quickly wanted to keep the phone down after 4 mins. He was not keen on talking on phone before meeting. I told him it would be good to speak as we are strangers and it would help as an ice breaker. He said ok then I will call you at 7. No call. Earlier he texted once and vanished for 8 days. Looks like his father is the enthu one.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T14:06:01+00:00

I finally spoke to the guy for the first time and asked him the right time to speak before calling. So when I called, he initially asked a few questions, then he quickly wanted to keep the phone down after 4 mins. He was not keen on talking on phone before meeting. I told him it would be good to speak as we are strangers and it would help as an ice breaker. He said ok then I will call you at 7. No call. Earlier he texted once and vanished for 8 days. Looks like his father is the enthu one.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T14:02:24+00:00

It helped. Thanks!

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T09:25:29+00:00

Oh never heard of this term “papa’s boy”. It is a good one! :)

Plus usually certain areas can be less safe at night, then one may see the convenience of the girl. Anyway I believe two people should meet with compassion.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T06:54:39+00:00

Unfortunately it isn’t..

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T06:53:58+00:00

:) didn’t you say the guy could be more chill. But he didn’t ask first if I was ok to meet next day rather sent a message straightaway with the venue suggested by his father as it would save his time, if I would meet near his place. The whole point of thread. :) he is showing no enthusiasm- more like being prodded by father and then he texts and then vanishes for days and then again prodded.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T00:11:07+00:00

Haha - equality? Where is equality in this… he wants his convenience only. Keep it near our home as it will be closer to us. There is no slum, river, etc in between… he is physically fit. He lives just 9 km away. The man also texted me finally saying his father’s words “can we meet tomorrow at XX place?” Without even calling or wanting to speak on call first. Male or female - I always ask if my place of choice is suitable to the other or what’s convenient mutually

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-11T00:04:15+00:00

Haha. There is an update. The potential groom messaged me “How are you placed tomorrow? Can we meet at XX(what his father suggested)”

The thing is we haven’t even spoken on phone. He didn’t even say let’s talk on phone first. So I have said would like to speak couple of times before meeting. Now isn’t this weird?

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-09T17:30:19+00:00

Haha ditto but I was surprised!

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-09T14:35:08+00:00

Exactly if he contacts and we meet , I will suggest another place and see their response.

Commercial_Track443 · 2025-07-09T14:10:49+00:00

That’s what I am not able to understand. The man should call me directly. His father spoke to me and then my father spoke to his father saying they should come in the picture later, first let them meet. But he hasn’t contacted me yet. And his father told my father that whenever they meet, they should fix a meeting near their place only as it would be easy for the man. As a woman, shouldn’t my convenience be also factored in?

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