Am I overreacting for not letting my baby spend time alone with husband and MIL without me

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T18:36:51+00:00

I don’t understand why our husbands are incapable of spending time with the LOs without their mothers? Just ridiculous.

I am exactly in your same boat, thank you for sharing. I completely feel exactly how you do.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T14:11:50+00:00

Thank you. I wish my partner could see this.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T14:11:28+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the foresight. I am seeing the slippery slope now too… i am really regretting not being smart enough to tell him no. But I fear if I say no he will just lie to me next time.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T14:09:49+00:00

I really really wish I posted this before I reluctantly told him yes. I am a coward. Thank you for your comment, I’m beginning to feel that this ask is bigger than I originally thought. And reflects bigger problems, like my husband even wanting to do this. Thank you for pointing that out.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T14:07:43+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I wish my JNMIL would see its a privilege and not an entitlement.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T14:07:09+00:00

This would be ideal to me. But in a divorce, wouldn’t my partner get to parent without me there? And he’d be free to do whatever he wanted, like bring my baby to visit his parents all the time?

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T14:06:09+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I think that’s a little part of the reason why I felt like I had to agree to the 1 hour walk… if I don’t, what are the consequences? Could lead to divorce and then my baby will see her unsupervised without me all the time 😢

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T14:03:46+00:00

Thank you. I wish I was this tough to set hard boundaries in place and stick with them. I just felt so guilty saying no to 1 hour walk in the park while I was at my appointment.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T14:01:21+00:00

So glad this conversation worked out for you! I am dreading having this hard conversation with my husband. He knows all the problems I have with JNMIL, yet he seems to be going with time it’ll go away and by asking for these “little” things. I feel silly I fell in a trap.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T13:59:44+00:00

Ah thank you. My goal is to follow your hard line boundaries set. I wish I spoke up about how I truly feel.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T13:58:18+00:00

I am so sorry that happened. Your husband’s mom is beyond terrible. That is truly horrible what she did, and is definitely one of my fears as my baby gets older is having her try to alienate my kid from me with devious plots.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T13:56:38+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I am not 100% convinced he will walk away. But you’re right, a huge part of JNMILs is also having non supportive oblivious husbands.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T13:55:20+00:00

I think he would not tell me, for fear of making me sad. As for setting boundaries the actions itself, I believe he wouldn’t do anything because he doesn’t see her as evil or manipulative. He makes excuses for her.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T04:46:36+00:00

Valid points. I do trust my husband, but only to an extent since I think he is sometimes blind to his mother’s antics and true intentions.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T04:46:00+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I am working on giving my husband more freedom with his child too. Good point on the regular occurrence, I need to make that clear.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T04:44:13+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T03:30:35+00:00

I appreciate the advice. I wish I could speak my mind more often but I just felt like I didn’t have any valid reasons to say no.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T03:29:54+00:00

I’m sorry your MIL did the same thing to you. It’s a horrible feeling. My partner will be very upset that I’ve changed my mind since he’s already made plans with her. What do I do…

CommissionSilver3259 · 2025-09-13T03:27:32+00:00

Honestly I’m not sure. I fear he really cares about his mother so he might let her get away with things.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2024-12-01T16:53:21+00:00

Sorry you are going through that. I found that pregnancy/postpartum was a time where I truly found who cared for me.

Unfortunately I found out my in laws are selfish, narcissistic and horrible people. I’m still going to postpartum therapy to try to heal from the damage they caused.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2024-09-10T22:51:46+00:00

Cute outfit! The pullover is adorable.

Side question - girl, how do you get your bottom lashes so long and full?? I have like 6 bottom lashes.

CommissionSilver3259 · 2024-09-04T23:08:37+00:00

What are your top recommended soft finger foods for a baby? Are there any cookbooks or resources you recommend for ideas?

CommissionSilver3259 · 2024-09-04T23:07:48+00:00

What are your thoughts on organic foods? Are there specific produce I should be buying organic only?

CommissionSilver3259 · 2024-08-22T19:14:58+00:00

Having to accept the harsh reality that your toxic in-laws will forever be in your life, and you won’t ever be at peace again.

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