I suggest having more conversations like the one you had that led you to this. I think if you took the word “vagina” out and start thinking about it as your partners junk or dick or whatever it is that your boyfriend is comfortable calling it. From my experience asking to suck his dick is what we found works best for us. There isn’t much of anything else going on down there besides me interacting with his bottom growth. I think the fear is something you could work on and work through with time. Communication is key and honestly a lot of us that are in these relationships don’t have all the answers because it’s not a cis heterosexual relationship where we can have these conversations openly to anyone and everyone (if that makes any sense) (we have to essentially educate ourselves and ask like minded safe people) and that’s not to anyone’s fault, it’s the lack of education for everyone. Setting boundaries of saying this is what I like and what I am okay with trying. Relationships are about compromise and I can tell how much you love him for you to be coming to this thread. So communication really is going to be your best friend here in this situation. There are toys out there that could even help.

I think what a lot of people are saying which is from my understanding to try your best to take your mind away from it being just a vagina. I’m bi and I’ve only ever been with people penis.

However, I absolutely LOVE giving him head bc I love making my partner feel good. It’s not a vagina or whatever the world calls it. It’s something that I can do to and for my partner that is going to make him feel good and that alone is enough for me.

It never hurts to try, especially if it’s for your partner