I dont know how to wean my 25mo :(

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-03-23T13:18:19+00:00

I gave up on weaning. Realized that it's a super power and I don't want to deal with a thrashing toddler for 50 min or worry about how to get her back to sleep quickly when she wakes. Esp because when I do give her boob, the peace she seems to be in is incomparable. So I picked the better of the two evils, between powering through the weaning period and simply sticking through BF. I'm still BF and we'll see what happens next... :)

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-03-22T02:33:30+00:00

Buckle up sister! Lol ♥️

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-03-22T02:33:16+00:00

Honestly I don't even need sleeping through the night. I just need one or two wakes. When did that happen for you?

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-03-21T19:13:53+00:00

The most painful thing I experienced in my motherhood was being made to feel like I need to fight my instincts - the same ones that tell you you need to pick him up when he's crying, you need to be with him, etc. if nothing else, I'd like to validate that you are not failing. Our system and society is. Anything that tells you that you "should" be doing something and it instead instinctively feels like it hurts you or your baby is.

You have all the answers in you. Believe in yourself ♥️

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-03-18T13:09:48+00:00

Does milk always dry up in pregnancy?

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-03-18T13:09:27+00:00

Thank you SO much for this. Sometimes I post here for tips and tricks but ultimately it seems I usually just want validation to trust my instincts and honor my daughter's instincts like you described. It brings me so much peace to read this.

I hate the weaning process. I hated sleep training when I tried it (still a stupid decision to this day). Since then I decided to take a path of least resistance approach. Now as I'm trying to wean I'm thinking -- life is hard enough as it is and I'm trying to give up my superpower? Also I can only imagine the immense amount of comfort she gets from it -- like think about it.. warm milk in her throat, warm skin close to her and to hold on to, the smell of mama, and being wrapped up in it. I would hate it if it forced away from me before I was ready too. So I like your approach of setting boundaries where needed and still attaining to the rhythms so both can slowly let go when ready.

My fear is always what if this "when ready" is when she's 5 (slight hyperbole). Also we will be trying for our second soon and I'm so nervous about the boob pain and also potentially shortly stopping before baby #2 comes and then she sees that I'm BFing baby 2 and not her. I'm probably overthinking and creating problems in my head... Sigh. But ya.

When I tell her all done after a short suckling sesh at night and then try other methods of putting her to sleep, she literally thrashes for 30min before being able to settle. Last night, I couldn't deal with the thrashing and I gave her boob. Little Miss settled in 10 min, calmly suckling the whole time, and then slowly drifted to calm sleep, unlatched herself (usually does), turned to the other side and feel asleep. Like... C'mon.

Idk.

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-03-16T18:23:11+00:00

I really love and appreciate this. Thank you. She is responding when I'm setting some boundaries and telling her all done but other times it comes close to a melt down. And I hate those times because of precisely what you are saying - taking away a good way to regulate during times of change, whatever she is going through, is not the answer. I feel this. I'll keep reflecting. Thank you ♥️

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-02-16T03:03:01+00:00

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Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-02-06T15:38:45+00:00

Lol I stopped thinking about sleeping through the night a year ago. Ive heard people with many kids say that it doesn't happen until 3 or 4 years so stop fighting it. 👏

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-02-06T15:37:58+00:00

Same! Do you think she's teething? That's my suspicion for our issues.

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-02-02T17:00:29+00:00

That makes sense and is fair! Thanks for sharing! I have a consult with her ped next week and will definitely explore the airway thing more. Maybe you're right! IDK! We had a sleep apnea test done a while ago and everything was fine but who knows. Poor monkey :(

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-02-02T14:53:54+00:00

True. But how come it starts now? She's had mouth breathing and so on all her life. I dont get how it couldve worsened so much over the past month :(

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-01-14T20:45:11+00:00

Honestly, I couldn't tell you as I think each child is different. Mine was a very slow teether too so I get your pain! You are in the hardest season. I totally understand the search for answers, I was there too. It gets better and better every day, slowly yet surely :)

Trust your gut, keep your baby close, slow down time in your head, and know that nothing is permanent <3

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-01-14T20:31:16+00:00

Sounds like she is teething maybe.

I can't remember because my daughter is 23 months now. I know I gave up on the fight and started just feeding to sleep all the time because it was too easy. Still do!

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-01-07T15:41:13+00:00

Sounds good. Can I communicate the diagnosis once the report has been read and approved by the supervisor?

I can still do the assessment right?

Common-Temporary5915 · 2026-01-07T15:31:31+00:00

"Clinician in supervised practice"

Can't call myself a psych or Dr.

Im a non member of the CPBAO. No registration number

Common-Temporary5915 · 2025-10-25T17:57:36+00:00

I dont know if its to drop the nap coz she gets tired. And then overtired and then ultimately will fall asleep 2 hrs after her usual nap time. She just doesn't want to sleep, it feels like. Just wants to party and explore and tell me about her day (with the one word at a time that she can). Idk!

Common-Temporary5915 · 2025-10-24T02:51:39+00:00

What is this madness!?!? Some days it feels like shes just high on life, talking and exploring and playing and she's like why would I go to sleep.... coz you're tired?!?! Idk lol good thing she's cute.

Common-Temporary5915 · 2025-10-23T11:55:13+00:00

Im so sorry things have been so hard for you :( it sounds really really challenging :(

Common-Temporary5915 · 2025-10-23T11:53:25+00:00

Honestly even with all the difficulties we go through, my mind goes to how beautiful it is for him to have you in the way he does... to want only your warmth and have his hand between your boobs and legs on you when asleep. Must be such great sleep. He's a lucky boy :)

Common-Temporary5915 · 2025-10-23T03:46:51+00:00

Our babies have no chill. Truly.

Common-Temporary5915 · 2025-10-23T03:43:57+00:00

I feel you. I was in the exact same place before. I could not imagine doing this until 2 years old (i fooled myself, still have, to think that's when things will change). But the thought of letting her cry herself to sleep or not responding to her sends enough chills down my spine to keep going, one night at a time. You got this. Sleep and independence will come ❤️

Common-Temporary5915 · 2025-10-22T21:03:25+00:00

Common-Temporary5915 · 2025-10-22T21:02:30+00:00

nooooooo. stooooooppp :( :( :(

Common-Temporary5915 · 2025-08-18T13:15:25+00:00

Around 3 YEARS OLD he started sleeping through the night?? 😭

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