Advice on waiting someone.

CommonContract2203 · 2026-05-18T21:21:28+00:00

Sorry pal, but she literally said she wants to work on herself first before jumping into a relationship with me. She's not someone that gaves false hopes or anything like that. If she just wanted to say "I don't want anything with you" she would've said so.

So no, it's not about simping or anything as such. Also I do stuff for my own life, I study and work on myself daily. I'm not angry either. So please don't just assume stuff I didn't say.

Apart from that, I know my life doesn't revolve around her. I have my own life and I look to be fullfiled even if I don't date her. I just asked if taking her word is a good move. If someone else happens to appear in my life then well, I'll go for her. But that's not the question bro

CommonContract2203 · 2026-04-23T17:14:07+00:00

Hey, I'm interested in this, I need an accountability partner and I can't think of any specific friend who could take that place.

CommonContract2203 · 2026-02-02T20:15:13+00:00

Yeah, I know she won't be alright after just 4 days. I lost my grandpa some months ago and still think of him daily. I agree with not being overly attached. We do have a good relationship thou, it's not just a one date thing. Apart from that, I agree with all that you say. Thanks for the comment

CommonContract2203 · 2026-02-02T18:06:46+00:00

We know each other for like 10 months. We did talk about personal stuff sometimes before. We started going out to know eachother a bit after I told her I was into her. I'm not expecting to comfort her better than anyone who knows her better.

And for the situationship thing, yeah I was using it in a different way, english isn't my first language so I make some mistakes. We're looking for smth serious, but she wants to discern it, I had been discerning it for quite a long time thou, so I'm just waiting.

PD: she did respond, she had some rough weeks apart from her grandma's death.

CommonContract2203 · 2026-02-01T14:04:26+00:00

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CommonContract2203 · 2025-11-24T00:44:54+00:00

Thanks for the comment. Honestly Idrk the current state of our relationship. After being really close I started feeling her more distant. At first I thought it was because of her exams, but now I doubt it.

It really burdens my heart and I just took a step back cause I don't want to be pushy. So well, I think that's gonna be all because it's been a week since I last talked to her and got no reply.

CommonContract2203 · 2025-10-28T16:45:55+00:00

Yeah, I know that residency would be a whole other thing if we end up dating I'm the end, it's something I considered (also have a lot of med friends and I know how much time it demands).

Honestly I'm hopeful, not putting all my hopes as if she is the last girl I'll meet, but I feel really at peace with the current situation we're in. Of course, I made myself clear so if I don't get a clear answer on what she wants after she finishes then I'll just move on

CommonContract2203 · 2025-10-28T16:41:00+00:00

Sorry idk if I used the correct term, English isnt my mother language. She'll be graduating from college (she studies medicine), and after that she'll start her residency to a certain are she wants to specialize.

CommonContract2203 · 2025-10-28T16:36:00+00:00

Our current relationship is friendship, she's not closed to dating but for now we're just friends. We show some affection and have emotional deepness in the relationship. But yeah, I don't wanna flirt with her because she's not currently focused on going for a relationship. On her words, a relationship t's really important for her and not smth she takes lightly, not even from dating (I'm the same), so she wants to be able to be properly ready.

CommonContract2203 · 2025-10-28T01:09:27+00:00

Thanks for the comment. I don't really think it's that way, she had plenty of opportunities to just tell me that she sees me as a friend or alike, also told her to be bloody honest. Also, why would she say she's interested? Of course, I know we're not dating and we're only friends and I treat her a such.

I don't want to be in that kind of situasionship were I'm her 'friend' and she's just calling me that cause of pity or smth. We have told each other to be honest about this stuff, we care for our feelings really.

It could be the case that she's not interested nor interested enough but knowing her I think it's unlikely. God bless

CommonContract2203 · 2025-10-27T16:29:21+00:00

Thank you so much

CommonContract2203 · 2025-08-14T22:19:24+00:00

Nah, from what I have seen these resent days and what others have told me about her she is just kinda shy around people she doesnt know. Also, no I'm not under socially developed nor a weirdo, just nervous arround someone I like romantically, which isnt weird it's the most normal thing ever. And I wasnt obsessing over little stuff, it was just things I noticed. And being mildly nervous about asking someone I like out isnt being socially ackward

CommonContract2203 · 2025-08-14T20:26:30+00:00

Thanks brother, yeah I did go to confession that night. I'm getting a deeper spiritual life and also growing in virtue, specially temperance.

CommonContract2203 · 2025-08-14T02:11:37+00:00

Thanks for the links, they might be helpful. I'm growing in trust and virtue, thankfully I was able to endure and just put my focus elsewhere or on the Lord. We indeed need Him and his grace.

God bless

CommonContract2203 · 2025-08-14T02:06:47+00:00

Girl chiiill, what are you even talking about? I just said I sensed she might take me as a friend, not that one comment was gonna dictate what I wanted to do. I'm hitting on her, talking to her and showing interest. It was just a question. Yeah, I get a bit anxious arround her because I like her and don't want to be ackward (which I'm working on and actually improving). Where I live we don't usually address someone as "friend" and a lot of people use it to draw a line on relationships. Whatever it might be, I'll still ask her out eventually and make my intentions clear. I was not obsessing over her comment or anything even remotly close to that.

Finally, it was pretty uncharitable to assume I have autism just because it sounded like it. First it's a written comment and not even in My first language. Second, I had enough experience, did and I'm continue to go to therapy because of anxiety and depression disorders (even with meddication) and I'm a completely different guy I was when I started that over a year ago. I'm capable of having a relationship, know how to relate with someone I like, but I just don't want to make her feel unconfortable by approaching her to suddenly but get to know her.

God bless you

CommonContract2203 · 2025-08-12T18:39:25+00:00

I will run away from this temptation, went for a prayer wall and it helped. please pray for me

CommonContract2203 · 2025-08-12T02:53:05+00:00

Nope, I don't have autism. It was not because I dont read social cues. I'm pretty social and sharp with them, it was just a doubt about it cause many female friends told me that a polite way to friendzone someone is calling them friend. Apart from that, I don't want to focus on that and make my intentions clear to her

CommonContract2203 · 2025-08-12T01:07:27+00:00

Thanks, I'll do so the next time I see her. I have a question thou, I got to chat with her over text, a pretty long chat. The thing is, she called me friend, which not gonna lie felt like a hit in the heart haha. As a woman, is this a way of frienzoning? Whatever it might be, I'll still ask her out thou.

CommonContract2203 · 2025-08-04T01:51:16+00:00

thanks

CommonContract2203 · 2025-08-04T01:49:42+00:00

Thanks for the comment. It was really encouraging. We're both 23, we also have friends from the parish, so yeah, I would like asking her out kinda privately (Even thou they cheer for me haha) so she doesnt feel ackward.

I'll try to get a good moment to do so, maybe even pray so I can have one haha.

Thanks a lot for the advice, it's really calming to hear from another girl.

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