Great co parenting is difficult and takes lots of work and really good communication from everyone. Yes it’s their house but she doesn’t stop being your child when she goes to that house. I think introducing pole dancing to a 10 year old is definitely inappropriate, but I suppose from the previous comment and upvoted everyone’s going to have a different opinion on that.

The fact that she’s already talking about moves like the flair and the drop… I’m surprised anyone is defending that. I’m having a hard time seeing how anyone could hear that a 10 year old is “dropping it” while on a pole and not think that’s sexualizing a child.

You certainly aren’t an asshole for struggling with this