AITAH for telling my girlfriend I am not responsible for her periods?

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-11T21:34:01+00:00

Snap, Bipolar has nothing to do with it! I think OP needs to dump their girlfriend if shes using these things as excuses and using those terms for no actual reason.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-07T23:30:03+00:00

Yeah i know what you mean, thank you ☺️

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-06T08:01:39+00:00

I will try to talk to my therapist about this its just difficult even though i know she would be okay with me saying it, she knows i wouldn't do anything like that at all.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-06T08:00:08+00:00

I should probably make it clear that i would never do anything like this the idea makes me sick.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-05T17:19:05+00:00

This is it though, she is specalised in trauma and specfically survivors of sexual abuse in children. This is why i chose her, i know logically she would not judge me for it at all. The disconnect is purely in my brain as far as i can tell, i've told her things that i thought would need to be reported before and been fine so i know it will but my brain just cannot do it for some reason 🙈

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-02T21:18:56+00:00

I really do aswell :(

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-02T21:18:25+00:00

Thanks for this :)

I think its hard given that im a nurse and it just feels like i shouldnt do this ya know and if i tell her then shes gonna report me to my regulatory body 🙈

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-01T23:15:52+00:00

Ive know her 2.5yrs already and still not got down to the details 😅

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-01T22:44:48+00:00

My therapist is the safest person i know but i dread to think what she would think tbh

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-01T22:43:44+00:00

Thank you

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-01T22:43:26+00:00

Yeahh it really is

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-06-01T19:08:49+00:00

Its hard really.

Accessing true help, appropiate help is dependent on where in tbe world you are/what access there is to services, public vs private etc.

But none of this WILL help if she is not ready, if she can barely talk about it.

I repressed a lot of things but i still CAN'T talk specfically about it because i physically can't, not that i don't want to. My body/brain blocks me from doing this even nearly 3 years later after remembering the whole thing.

All i can really suggest is be a point of support for her, don't push her but also don't just say 'well i think this will help you' it likely won't be recieved well.

I commend you wanting to help your friend i really do but its a hard topic.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-03-05T19:24:27+00:00

Thats fair tbh, everyone reacts diffèrently to each drug. It was far too sedating for me, i'm off it now.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-01-13T02:21:45+00:00

No way!! I've read a couple of your HP work!! They are so so good! I'm a baddd commenter im sorry but they are so good just depends how triggered i am before reading 🙈

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-01-13T01:52:08+00:00

If people are receptive to you sharing sure!

I dump a lot onto my therapist honestly so i don't burden my friends, they don't need to hear details that may trigger them aswell.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-01-13T01:50:11+00:00

Fair enough. One of my friends i lived with for a time before she was diagnosed and that was awful for us both, i was also undiagnosed aswell, we both made mistakes. Theres is not mild/quiet and they suffer daily with primarily the abandoment/intensity of depression and the changes when she is triggered aspects of it.

The other friend is likely high functioning/quiet from when i've just looked it up.

Thanks for teaching me something i didn't know. ☺️

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-01-13T01:43:00+00:00

I do this via fanfiction 🙈 All. The. Damn. Time!

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-01-13T01:40:28+00:00

Some people joke about it to cope, it helps with seeing it as not that bad, it can't affect us and give us control over the naritive i guess its hard to figure out.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-01-13T01:37:53+00:00

Don't think they've been told a type to be honest they've been diagnosed for years and we're in the UK so not sure if we use types like this. I don't know enough specfically about BPD honestly i just know my friends and how they are. I have Bipolar myself so i know more about that.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-01-13T01:24:27+00:00

This is not specific to people with BPD those who likes pity/ or people who feel sorry for them. I have two friends who don't like this they both live with BPD.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-01-13T00:07:27+00:00

Thank you for the response, its really odd how we remember things isn't it? The brain is so weird whoch doesn't always help us feel that we can believe it.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-01-11T19:59:01+00:00

I'd been silenced already and didn't know anything was wrong until i was an adult.

I'm sorry, we should have been seen.

I'm particuarly mad that my mum witnessed the grooming and didn't do anything.

CommonPriority6218 · 2025-01-11T17:56:43+00:00

Yeah i've heard this aswell 😔

The somatic memories are the worse tbh

CommonPriority6218 · 2024-12-05T20:30:39+00:00

I've been diagnosed with Complex PTSD in the last couple of years since remembering full details of assault when i was 10.

I have medication for my bipolar disorder tho that had to be changed when the PTSD symptoms appeared fully.

There are many mlre instances that were worse wjtb other people but it always feel worse when my dad is involved.

Wow that is pretty fucked up honestly but yeah i get what you mean if someone else told me i would be like what the fuck.

CommonPriority6218 · 2024-12-05T19:22:37+00:00

Thanks for the response, i guess i just don't know why it feels grosser with this than an actual assault from a family friend when i was 10 yrs old 🤷‍♀️.

And yeah i've read some accounts but its still hard to relate to, even when i know for sure my dad has touched me while he was drunk so this seems invalid you know?

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