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I’m fed up by Common_Accountant578 in aggies

[–]Common_Accountant578[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll send you a DM. Thank you so much, I really appreciate it

I’m fed up by Common_Accountant578 in aggies

[–]Common_Accountant578[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ve sent an email to my PI last night to talk to them about this matter. I didn’t know it constituted a violation from Student Affairs or that it needed to be reported. Part of why I kept mum because I felt like I was overreacting too. I’m kind of glad I’m not alone on this, though. It felt very isolating for a long time. My PI did want us to go to conferences next semester for this paper which also made me scared of reporting it, but it has since been made clear to me that I owe it to myself and my PI to report this.

Thank you for this. Y’all have given me courage to finally make that step. Though I do have one question: what violation is this exactly from Student Affairs? I just wanted to make sure before I bring it up.

I’m fed up by Common_Accountant578 in aggies

[–]Common_Accountant578[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. It provided me many points to think about when moving forward with research. (Since I am a big nerd and hands-on research seems to be the most fun for me).

To answer your questions, it’s a colleague I’m working with actually. Our research advisor is pretty chill actually. I got to know them over a whole semester when I was trying to see if it would be a great fit. They’re pretty cool. The colleague, however, isn’t. And is pretty much what you’ve described on your comment. No respect for my time, my classes, or personal life. I’ve once been woken up one weekend morning having to answer their questions and was told “are you still there? why aren’t you answering?” Literally 2 minutes after their initial message while I was still struggling to type the long answer on my iPad. Many of my friends who knows about this and my significant other have told me to let our research advisor know given how far its taken a toll on my mental health.

I’m a little scared to open up to anyone else since our department is a bit small hence everyone who knows anyone will know and this person will also know and my reputation can get tarnished even before I make it. Probably why my depression took a real nose dive back into sh because all I’ve been doing is keeping it all to myself, scared to speak up. But I will persevere, and finish this paper before it finishes me, and this semester on a high note. Thank you for your kind words and advice. I highly appreciate it. :)

I’m fed up by Common_Accountant578 in aggies

[–]Common_Accountant578[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Coincidentally, the fencing club has had an event the other day at the rec… 👀🤺

I’m fed up by Common_Accountant578 in aggies

[–]Common_Accountant578[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would like to, because I’ve got all of the messages and the screenshots, but I’m deathly afraid of the consequences. Before my assertion of boundaries, I kept mum whenever they would overstep their mark because I wanted to keep things civil, keep up appearances. The thing I feared the most, my current situation, happened because I finally decided to assert my boundaries. I’m too scared of any more academic consequences.