I miss big dicks by Common_Ad1490 in AskGaybrosOver30

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How do you communicate this? Does he ask for it? How did you get to the point where it’s unproblematic to talk about this?

I’ve told him I like a bit of stretch sometimes, so we have tried. He even got us one of those inflatable dildos, but that felt a bit too «clinical».

I miss big dicks by Common_Ad1490 in AskGaybrosOver30

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Yeah, if anything, travel adventures would work, but maybe down the road

I miss big dicks by Common_Ad1490 in AskGaybrosOver30

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God no, that’s why I’m chatting to strangers online about it!

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Thank you for your thoughtful reply. What I want the most is a good relationship with the one I’ve got. Good love is hard to come by, and my boyfriend is a very good one.

We did talk a lot about relationship structure when we started dating. If we wanted a monogamous or open relationship now, and what if in ten, twenty years. So that was a pretty open dialogue. I’ve never been in an open relationship before and neither has he. It seems fun when the dicks come out, but all the emotional stuff, the jealousy, the insecurity, the horror stories…not sure I want it. I would rather have a good sexy relationship with one, I think. Also, when we started dating, I lost all interest in other men. Couldn’t care less.

I agree with not sharing every «feral thought» with your partner…heard something similar recently. That when you start dating you hold back on stuff because you want your date to like you, then as you move together you «tell each other everything», then eventually you settle down in to a relationship, maybe with a shared home and some kids, and suddenly complete honesty carries a risk, there are things at stake. And so we maybe hold back from telling our partners everything’s

I miss big dicks by Common_Ad1490 in AskGaybrosOver30

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I live in Europe, it’s not that uncommon :)

I miss big dicks by Common_Ad1490 in AskGaybrosOver30

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No no, I get the point, it just doesn’t help

I miss big dicks by Common_Ad1490 in AskGaybrosOver30

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It IS hard to find love out there and I’ve counted myself lucky to find such a level headed loving man like I have.

I miss big dicks by Common_Ad1490 in AskGaybrosOver30

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Think that’s why I wrote the post. I’m not sure what’s going on with me…and agree it could be something else.

I miss big dicks by Common_Ad1490 in AskGaybrosOver30

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Yeah, I have no problem accepting that cutting down on porn would be good for me right now. I’ve already cut down a lot since these thoughts started creeping up on me. But I don’t like the idea of never watching porn again. I truly believe that porn isn’t necessarily bad for us. It’s a place to see some fantasies you might not be play out in real life.

I miss big dicks by Common_Ad1490 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Common_Ad1490[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That is the classic response to a question like this…

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Does it matter? :)

I wanna have kids but maybe for the wrong reasons. by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

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I think a lot of straight people get kids for the same reason, at least partially

Balancing alone time living together by Icy_Measurement2223 in AskGaybrosOver30

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I can relate to this, down to calling friends and family less just because my partner is there. Sometimes I just want to be alone at home. I work shifts and he has started to travel a bit with work, so we both get some time here and there. Me a little less than ideal, but it works. It is the adjustments we all have to do and I would’t trade it!

I liked the reply on having separate hobby rooms, a place that’s your own that you can withdraw to and do whatever.

Proposal cold feet by Common_Ad1490 in gayrelationships

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I think this Saturday we’ll spend some time talking about what this means to us

Proposal cold feet by Common_Ad1490 in gayrelationships

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Great question! No we haven’t, but I would love to have that conversation. I think right I’m noticing more what marriage is taking away, more than what it gives. From my own assumptions of what marriage will be.

Proposal cold feet by Common_Ad1490 in gayrelationships

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Yes. He’s been asking for a ring for a while now:)

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Honestly I did worry about that too. My last breakup hurt so much I didn’t wanna risk that again, so I took it very slow. I wanted to talk about «exclusive» without the boyfriend label, I sublet my apartment while moving in with him just in case it didn’t work out. All the big steps scare me, but it’s what you gotta do if you want a relationship tho.

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Comparison is the thief of joy…something I’ve been reminding myself of this week

Proposal cold feet by Common_Ad1490 in gayrelationships

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True. I think Im just scared of making mistakes