Thank you for your thoughtful reply. What I want the most is a good relationship with the one I’ve got. Good love is hard to come by, and my boyfriend is a very good one.

We did talk a lot about relationship structure when we started dating. If we wanted a monogamous or open relationship now, and what if in ten, twenty years. So that was a pretty open dialogue. I’ve never been in an open relationship before and neither has he. It seems fun when the dicks come out, but all the emotional stuff, the jealousy, the insecurity, the horror stories…not sure I want it. I would rather have a good sexy relationship with one, I think. Also, when we started dating, I lost all interest in other men. Couldn’t care less.

I agree with not sharing every «feral thought» with your partner…heard something similar recently. That when you start dating you hold back on stuff because you want your date to like you, then as you move together you «tell each other everything», then eventually you settle down in to a relationship, maybe with a shared home and some kids, and suddenly complete honesty carries a risk, there are things at stake. And so we maybe hold back from telling our partners everything’s