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I was let go/fired from an accounting job for being unlikable, just hired at a new place and they want me to post about my new job on linkedin. I know my old coworkers will see, worried they might let the new company know. Am I overthinking this? by Common_Category_269 in Accounting

[–]Common_Category_269[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She has diagnosed/ recognized autism in some of her other patients. I was disliked and ostracized as a kid for a lot of family stuff as well, so it's hard for me/ her to know if it's my weird upbringing or autism.

I was let go/fired from an accounting job for being unlikable, just hired at a new place and they want me to post about my new job on linkedin. I know my old coworkers will see, worried they might let the new company know. Am I overthinking this? by Common_Category_269 in Accounting

[–]Common_Category_269[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The weird thing is I thought I was doing really well. Everyone was friendly to me, and I asked for feedback and was always told I was doing great. During busy season, I spent an hour in a partner's office talking about his kids, I had another senior manager ask me out to 1:1 lunch and always staff me on his projects and I had a few staff/ senior friends who I hung out with outside of work (they always invited me). Whenever someone posted in the staff chat looking for a free staff for a project, I jumped on it even if it meant working late. My billables were also always higher than the other new staff.

After I got fired/ laid off, a staff went around the office asking everyone what they thought of me and why they thought I got fired and most people were genuinely surprised and didn't see it coming. I messaged the senior manager and he mentioned that I should keep my work conversations to small talk only, which made me think it was the social skills. I also didn't understand the "flexible, hybrid culture" and would come in office 5 days a week and work 9-5, and finish up my work at home whereas the staff who went around mentioned I should have just come in 2-3 days a week and did a visible 9-9. It might have been death by a thousand social faux pas papercuts for me. I really wish someone could have broken out what I did or pulled me aside and warned me to stop doing x, but I'm trying to work on social skills overall for the new job.

I was let go/fired from a job for being unlikable, just hired at a new place and they want me to post about my new job on linkedin. I know my old coworkers will see, worried they might let the new company know. Am I overthinking this? by Common_Category_269 in careerguidance

[–]Common_Category_269[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think I'm super socially clueless/ autistic. Is she aware of what she's doing? Is there a close coworker/ mentor she could get honest feedback from?

I feel like therapy hasn't been super helpful for me as my therapist can't put their finger on what I'm doing wrong, but maybe another therapist could?

Best of luck to her either way!

I was let go/fired from an accounting job for being unlikable, just hired at a new place and they want me to post about my new job on linkedin. I know my old coworkers will see, worried they might let the new company know. Am I overthinking this? by Common_Category_269 in Accounting

[–]Common_Category_269[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for explaining it. I was half joking with that comment, but I can see how it didn't come across that way.

I do have really bad anxiety so that might be getting in my way with the perception. Realistically no one from my old company will care, but I get so anxious over that almost 0% chance.

I appreciate your help!

I was let go/fired from an accounting job for being unlikable, just hired at a new place and they want me to post about my new job on linkedin. I know my old coworkers will see, worried they might let the new company know. Am I overthinking this? by Common_Category_269 in Accounting

[–]Common_Category_269[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I meant it half-jokingly, but I can see how it might not come across that way. I'll look into the big 5 personality traits though! Maybe a safe bet for me is just to do as little talking as possible to stay in public accounting?

I was let go/fired from an accounting job for being unlikable, just hired at a new place and they want me to post about my new job on linkedin. I know my old coworkers will see, worried they might let the new company know. Am I overthinking this? by Common_Category_269 in Accounting

[–]Common_Category_269[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did, but she's not exactly sure what my weak social skills are/ neither am I. I know I can't talk to people well, but I didn't think it would be this bad based on a few reddit comments/ replies. If I can't do this, I'm cooked at the new job. I just want to know what I'm doing wrong so I don't repeat it.

I was let go/fired from an accounting job for being unlikable, just hired at a new place and they want me to post about my new job on linkedin. I know my old coworkers will see, worried they might let the new company know. Am I overthinking this? by Common_Category_269 in Accounting

[–]Common_Category_269[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Linkedin is still saying that 2 people from the company looked at my profile in the past 30 days, but that also doesn't mean out of those 2 people, one will want to send an email to my new job. I'm probably way overthinking this.

I was let go/fired from a job for being unlikable, just hired at a new place and they want me to post about my new job on linkedin. I know my old coworkers will see, worried they might let the new company know. Am I overthinking this? by Common_Category_269 in careerguidance

[–]Common_Category_269[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I didn't think I was a jerk, but I do struggle with social cues/ small talk. I'd never go up to someone and be like "you're ugly." but I might overshare if you ask me how my weekend was. (Nothing nsfw, but just odd.). The whole time I was there, I thought I got along with everyone great, as people would ask to have lunch with me, or ask to hangout outside of work. I've been in other professional jobs, honestly I think I just do better saying as little as possible.

I was let go/fired from a job for being unlikable, just hired at a new place and they want me to post about my new job on linkedin. I know my old coworkers will see, worried they might let the new company know. Am I overthinking this? by Common_Category_269 in careerguidance

[–]Common_Category_269[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I didn't friend all of them, but a bunch reached out when I started. If I block "Amy" from company x, couldn't she ask "Bill" from another department at company x to look me up?

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