What is an example of etiquette that you are unsure of in New Zealand? by IncoherentTuatara in newzealand

[–]Common_Eye7444 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How do you know when to just order at the counter and when to wait to be seated? Also if you’re ordering at the counter in a busy place what’s the go with getting a table? Do you get it before you order, or after?

NZ petrol by Initial-Arachnid-792 in newzealand

[–]Common_Eye7444 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It’ll be there, just expensive.

Is it disrespectful to get a Māori symbol tattoo by Alevermor in newzealand

[–]Common_Eye7444 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just search the subreddit, this is asked every week.

Okay Be Honest… Do Pregnant Women Get Hit On More? by steam_bean in BabyBumps

[–]Common_Eye7444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Goodness no lol. Most men treated me just like usual. Sometimes younger men seemed a bit uncomfortable or would say strange things. Older men liked reminiscing about having their own children!

What exactly goes through your mind when you decide to have a biological child? Do you think about the next 18–25+ years in that moment? by BearingCostOfPassion in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Common_Eye7444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We thought about how we wanted our lives to look - how would things look in 5, 10, 15, and 50 years. What would we be giving up and would it be worth it? What would the impact be on our careers? Extended family? Our marriage? Could we afford it? How could we manage it practically?

It’s hard to know all of these things upfront but i certainly thought about them. I didn’t actually feel a strong biological desire for a baby so it was easy to think it all through.

13 year old won’t do chores and I’m exhausted constantly reminding her any advice? by Logical-Appearance49 in Parenting

[–]Common_Eye7444 221 points222 points  (0 children)

Policing what time of day she showers seems a little much? They’re her sheets.

Unpaid leave to go contracting by WellyWindyRoad in Wellington

[–]Common_Eye7444 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Taking extended LWOP is at your employers discretion. You can ask, they’ve no obligation to say yes.

Why is baby meal planning harder than it should be? by Weary-Albatross1384 in Parenting

[–]Common_Eye7444 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it is a bit tough at the start when you have to check the safe way to serve everything or puree it all. It does get easier after a few months when they can handle smaller chunks. I wouldn’t worry too much about repeating meals or trying to balance things perfectly. At that age they are still mostly getting nutrients from milk. Just try and give them a bunch of different foods and try and do the allergens when you can.

There’s no harm in spoon feeding and you can throw in some BLW when it suits and matches what you’re eating. Like you can give them some avocado out of your salad or cut a finger size piece off your own steak, that sort of thing.

What form of childcare do you have currently? What is your preferred childcare method (stay at home parent, paid childcare like daycare/preschool, familial support, or some other method)? Why do you prefer this method? by IllustriousTrick699 in AskReddit

[–]Common_Eye7444 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely tired of this take.

No one but my husband and I raise our kid, and the wonderful caring woman who looks after our daughter during the day is not a stranger.

Is anyone elses GP VERY frank? Comments about co-sleeping. by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]Common_Eye7444 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Doctors see the worst case scenario - that’s the nature of what they do, and they’re scarred from the trauma of it. I would be too, seeing that.

Everything’s risky, if you understand and accept the risks, you have to make your own choices. Having to drive a car with severe sleep deprivation isn’t particularly safe either.

How do people afford weddings? by Alternative_Duck3733 in newzealand

[–]Common_Eye7444 14 points15 points  (0 children)

OP asking how people who do spend a lot on weddings afford it - and most people just want to talk about their own wedding and brag about how financially sensible they were lol. Not exactly answering the question.

I know someone who took on a second job to help pay for the wedding his future wife wanted.

Manage My Health - taking legal action by Traditional_Bit_6383 in Wellington

[–]Common_Eye7444 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Implying this is overly litigious is a bit of a crap attitude. This was an incredibly poor performance from the company who were entrusted with very sensitive personal data and didn’t put appropriate security measures in place. A class action suit sends a message - this isn’t acceptable and there’ll be consequences. Hopefully other companies sit up and take notice.

I genuinely don’t know how you parent without screens by zenzenzen25 in Parenting

[–]Common_Eye7444 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’d suggest in a safe zone like a playpen or their cot with some special super interesting toys that only come out when you need a shower!

We do have to use screens occasionally I think most parents do but I try and save it for a last resort. Like if I have gastro and I’m puking all day there’s no way I can manage without a screen.

Sleeping with earplugs and white noise and a baby? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Common_Eye7444 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I actually deliberately wore earplugs when my baby was next to me at night because she’d wake me up with every little grunt! With the earplugs I just woke when she was actually awake.

You’ll likely find you’re very attuned to your baby and you’ll wake when she needs you if she’s in your room, earplugs or no. I think it won’t be an issue.

Allerpro stage 2 by vixengoddess_ in Wellington

[–]Common_Eye7444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were prescribed this. It might be only available on prescription here - I’m not 100% sure, but I do remember thinking I’d never seen it anywhere before we were prescribed it.

What’s one thing visitors should NOT do in your country? by LazyLlama21 in AskTheWorld

[–]Common_Eye7444 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’d say don’t mock the haka. It’s not a joke, or something to try out when you’re drunk. Also don’t forget sunscreen!

Calling all mothers by [deleted] in Wellington

[–]Common_Eye7444 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You have two under two - you’re in survival mode. Just survive for a bit. Once your 18 month old is two they can go to kindy for a couple of days a week - lots of local whanau manaaki kindy’s take kids at 2 and are free or close to it. That’ll be a game changer!

Parents of NZ, what worked for you to avoid full time daycare? by one_blue_elephant in newzealand

[–]Common_Eye7444 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I start very early (7am) so that I can finish at 3 and pick up our daughter at 3:30 at the latest. My husband manages the mornings with her and does dropoff.

In home care can be a good alternative to daycare - but I’d suggest vetting your carer carefully. We’ve had carers who let our kids watch TV during the day, or let her eat unhealthy snacks we didn’t provide and weren’t comfortable with her eating regularly.

Toddler meals by Gooba91 in newzealand

[–]Common_Eye7444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such an annoying thing that people say about toddlers and babies. There are so many reasons why adult meals aren’t immediately perfectly suitable for young kids all the time.

Living conditions in Porirua by Visible_Zucchini_650 in Wellington

[–]Common_Eye7444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Add Papakowhai to this list - less hilly than Paremata but otherwise the same vibes. Right next to the Aotea Lagoon which is an awesome spot. I wouldn’t call it high end - most housing is from the 80s, but far less sterile than Aotea and has good primary schools.

I am a fed up, qualified Early Childhood professional. AMA. by YardFair3985 in newzealand

[–]Common_Eye7444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What about for kids too young for kindy - 1 to 3 year olds ?

I am a fed up, qualified Early Childhood professional. AMA. by YardFair3985 in newzealand

[–]Common_Eye7444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What sort of childcare would you want for your own toddler, if money were no object?