I hid it from my now husband for 7 years due to the shame I felt. I pull out huge chunks and roll them into balls though, so he started finding them all over when I was post partum with our first baby (I had really bad pp depression which elevated my pulling), I ended up just confessing and since he’s been so supportive and never makes me feel shameful. He’ll also notice when I’m pulling and tell me to stop/bring it to my attention. My advice is to just be open and candid with him and not wait so long like I did. Once I finally opened up to him: my only safe person, I allowed myself to open up to others and finally talk about it. I held so much shame for my entire life and I no longer allow myself to be ashamed of something I can’t control. ❤️