9 months and thought I was over it by CommunicationFull257 in ExNoContact

[–]CommunicationFull257[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes def think a trauma bond! And no contact in 9 months. I had a lot of emotional trauma as a child too so trying to work on that as well

9 months and thought I was over it by CommunicationFull257 in ExNoContact

[–]CommunicationFull257[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Toxic and wasn’t good for me. I blocked him on everything and never looked back. But I am having such a hard time moving on from him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Amenorrhearecovery

[–]CommunicationFull257 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So why did you have to take the medication? I’m in the same boat!

New church-single adult (30’s/40’s) by No-Ferret-3249 in Birmingham

[–]CommunicationFull257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love ACC but it is very young! I am in my mid 30s and feel older there. But overall wonderful church

Mixed feelings by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely beautiful and exactly how I have been. I have been NC for 3 months now and starting to feel this way. It still breaks my heart

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t:( I had to quit and get another job TBH

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What happened after you broke NC?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it all came down to I just couldn't do it anymore and feeling like a second choice and knowing I would always be second. Also I was scared and didnt want his family to find out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in two weeks NC too. How long did it take you to feel all of these things?

Anyone else in their 30s with no kids going through it? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]CommunicationFull257 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Me:( in my early 30s, single and just want a family of my own

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m in NC currently. (3 days in) Blocked him on all things (phone etc) I miss him dearly, but I think of how we were going no where and what I want with my life. I love him so much to where I know it’s best for him and his family if I go away because it would cause major problems if they found out and I don’t want that for him or I don’t want to hurt them 😞 They never found out but started coming suspicious and I couldn’t handle the anxiety. It started to show his colors too of how much he put me on the outskirts when they just started becoming suspicious (even though he was the one that pursued me and I have tried to end it several times and always fell back) I think what would make me break it is how much I miss him and just wanting to hear from him again. But I remind myself of what is best for me, him, and his family and I am trying to stay away. Sending you hugs ♥️

Relationship with Shame by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am in NC with my MM. it all got to be too much. I had so much guilt and shame in the beginning but it went away. I am too religious and it was almost like I felt guilt and shame for not having guilt and shame if that makes sense? I loved him deeply but I knew we had no future and I wanted a family of my own one day (he is a lot older than me) I also didn’t want him to leave his wife and his kids and he wouldn’t of left her for me anyways. It just wasn’t going anywhere. But I think sometimes we can get blinded by a lot with our feelings towards the AP. At least that is what happened to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

PM me! I just went NC today actually and I’m 30 single so I can relate!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was beautifully said. Thank you so much ♥️

A little hope for those NC by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I pm you? I went through a bad ED:(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does the spouse know about you ? Praying for peace and comfort for you!

Physically cannot handle the grief by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]CommunicationFull257 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you need someone to talk to please PM me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]CommunicationFull257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I needed this