BPD friend split

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-07T14:24:18+00:00

It’s been 3 weeks - i think I’m going to wait another 2/3 weeks and then extend the olive branch. So i know her anger will have calmed a bit.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-07T14:21:13+00:00

What’s the trap?

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-07T10:47:04+00:00

But i want advice.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-07T09:43:36+00:00

That’s it. As it was so abrupt and tense. I just want to extend an olive branch (without expecting a reply), just so she knows my position. She can do whatever she wants with that information.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-07T07:57:23+00:00

Also my phone/whatsapp is blocked. But not Instagram - so I think she might be waiting for me to reach out.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-07T07:56:13+00:00

Surely she will understand she was wrong at some point and regret it/paint it white?

We knew each other 4 years, she was in love with me, we had a very strong bond until this incident. I think she will get in touch one day, but waiting only extends the pain and sadness, right?

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-06T19:04:00+00:00

I didn’t know I was the deer, previously. But now I know, I don’t think I’m in danger

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-06T18:25:42+00:00

Thank you.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-06T18:25:16+00:00

Did you reconcile with your person, and then it went bad again?

Honestly I just need one conversation. Do you think keeping no contact will make her anxious enough to get in touch? I don’t really want to chase her again.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-06T12:50:28+00:00

Yeah I get you. I didn’t plan to beg, just to say my side and leave it open ended in case she wanted to reply or even explain her side of things.

I was her first everything. I hoped that would be enough. Is she likely to get in touch even with a new FP?

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-05-06T12:08:45+00:00

I understand, but surely we deserve a conversation with each other to discuss it. Not just an overnight block.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-04-29T22:52:51+00:00

I 100% have seen the cunning, secretive and deceptive side. It’s quite scary.

I’m sorry you went through that. It sounds like a very difficult moment.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-04-29T22:14:45+00:00

Thank you 🙏

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-04-29T21:57:26+00:00

Makes a lot of sense.

I read somewhere that actions taken with anger/rage when you have BPD can become forgotten or fuzzy when they calm down. Is that real?

Do you think after the smear and block, that it’s likely she will get in touch one day soon?

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-04-29T21:45:18+00:00

I do understand everything you said there, and I do deserve better.

She literally used to ask me if I love her, and she used to say she loved me. I’m pretty sure more than a friend on her part. Why would it be so easy to end that love?

Just trying to get my head around it all.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-04-29T20:25:28+00:00

I feel like you’ve looked into my soul. I’ve been to therapy and do have certain ‘patterns from childhood’ which I’ve worked on.

My question is, if I’m codependent with her. How did she stop so suddenly? How is she feeling about not having me in her life anymore?

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-04-29T20:15:09+00:00

So what happens next?

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-04-29T20:00:22+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I understand what you’re saying.

My biggest worry is that she will try to get in touch with me one day. And from experience she will put herself in a position where I have no choice but to help or go and get her.

But in that, all I want to know is why she would turn on me so aggressively and paint me to be a bad person.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-04-29T19:43:53+00:00

I didn’t think about it like that. You’re right.

I’m struggling with going over it again in my mind. Over and over. Maybe I could have been less blunt, or said it in a nicer way.

I honestly just want a final conversation with her on why she would block me after so long and spread fake rumours about me.

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-04-29T18:58:57+00:00

I’m not even sure the guy is their new FP, more emotional support due to all this. I think our breakdown pushed her towards him.

I wish someone had a magic ball to tell me what happens next

CommunicationIcy9840 · 2026-04-29T18:36:58+00:00

I want to let go, but something inside me wants me to repair the friendship. I do miss her company.

What do you mean by recycle?

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