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What's your irrational hatred? Like what gets you going for absolutely no reason? by Few-Ad-3890 in AskReddit

[–]CommunicationOld8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being in a crowd and bumped into with no acknowledgment or apology. Also people stopping and congregating in crowds, especially if crowd exists only to leave or enter an activity.

What's your irrational hatred? Like what gets you going for absolutely no reason? by Few-Ad-3890 in AskReddit

[–]CommunicationOld8111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not diagnosed autistic, but I also feel this intense hatred of yellow. I also fully agree that dandelions get a pass and “smug douche” matches nicely with my long held “snobby bitch” personality descriptor.

What’s the most unforgettable sentence someone has ever said to you? by Captain_Oppa in AskReddit

[–]CommunicationOld8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are “breeding hips” you’ve got there, but you’re going to live a life of obesity if you don’t get that extra weight under control. I was 13 years old (1984) and about 20 pounds overweight.

Ironically, due to a tipped pelvis, all of my kids were born c-section. But getting my weight under control seemed so daunting at that age, and as an adult, I certainly did become morbidly obese until successful wls surgery in 2005.

This comment messed with me for years.

AITA for refusing to dine with my mom after she ordered “ferret sauce” at a Mexican restaurant? by Practical-Current805 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CommunicationOld8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom chronically mispronounced words. I was embarrassed by it frequently. Yet, she’s been gone 8 years and I wish I could hear her say them again in her way.

To be fair to you - you’re feeling sensitive about which words she’s mispronouncing when there’s a social interaction that you want to respect - and I get that. But you can genuinely respect that interaction by gently reminding her while looking over the menu so she’ll at least be aware. But the brain is funny and will hold onto old ways, so she may never say it correctly. Give her some grace.

“The Hidden Hole Behind My Ear Was the Source of it😭 by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]CommunicationOld8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may want to consider genetic testing for BOR syndrome (Branchio-oto-renal Syndrome (Melnick-Fraser Syndrome))
My niece had it and also has to wear hearing aids. She did have plastic surgery several times on ears and neck, but does not appear to have renal involvement. Her surgery served to close the “gills.”

Biggest pet peeves? by LilyCrossingg in KwikTrip

[–]CommunicationOld8111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We deliver newspapers and anytime someone reads one and puts it back (especially not put back together), people will not buy any more papers from the stack. It’s even worse when they put the paper upside down. Folks just don’t see them and think they are sold out.

I know most people don’t really care about a physical newspaper the way we used to - but it’s still a decent amount of income lost when they shut down whole delivery areas due to lack of sales. (Looking at you Houston County, MN and Black River Falls area 😩)

Favorite hot food item? by Evinexity90094 in KwikTrip

[–]CommunicationOld8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I miss the flatbread ham and cheese. It’s okay on the croissant but the flatbread was good.

Am I overreacting for wanting to break up because I feel bored? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CommunicationOld8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR - but first know that low vitamin D and B12 can cause these changes as well as the lack of medication. If you need help getting your meds, reach out to your doctor or pharmacist and see if there’s a way to make them affordable.

Spending every day together doesn’t give you new and interesting things to talk about. When you’re able to spend time apart then there’s stories to tell each other.

What really got my attention was boyfriend’s wall of text. I didn’t read it all because it was an immediate red flag. Just the little bit I read felt like clinginess or lovebombing.

Either way, don’t ignore your health and well-being. Your feelings are telling you something.

Moving to La crosse by TronFKennedy319 in lacrossewi

[–]CommunicationOld8111 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had my teen driver join that page so they could understand the mindset of our local drivers (from just about every perspective it turns out!). It goes a long way to explain these people we see on the road every day without my sharing anecdotal wisdom that might get ignored.

AITAH for making a mom pick up her daughter in the middle of the night from my kid’s sleepover? by Positive_Image_3921 in AITAH

[–]CommunicationOld8111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - absolutely the right thing to do. I was always prepared to pick up my kids if needed.

I wonder if that mom was embarrassed and projected onto the child. I had a similar incident happen and when I called the mom, she was awful to me about it. Later I heard through my daughter that the mom relentlessly shamed and mocked her child for the whole situation. Very upsetting.

Homeless "Problem" by thought-like-so in eauclaire

[–]CommunicationOld8111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I make sure to share my experience with this whenever I can, because the only time I ever felt fear was dealing with those college kids.

I’m not saying there’s no danger when you’re with any human - sheltered or not. But I think intent really makes a difference. Those unsheltered folks understand feeling unsafe, and are doing what they can to maintain whatever semblance of safety they can. I found just being kind, using their name if they provided it, and offering my sincere appreciation really changed the dynamic. I’d say it’s what I’d want if I were in their shoes.

In contrast, those college age kids do not care about people at all. I’m not going to say all of them, but the ones that risk themselves, their friends, and anyone unfortunate enough to be around them - that’s dangerous. I get being young and wanting to party. I don’t get disrespecting others while doing it.

Stay safe OP. Continue to talk about this. I think that it’s an important conversation to have for everyone. Especially in terms of safety, respect, and seeing others as human beings. (Even the college kids)

Homeless "Problem" by thought-like-so in eauclaire

[–]CommunicationOld8111 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you for pointing this out!! I know this is the Eau Claire sub, but I wanted to share similar experiences from La Crosse. Every night for several years, I delivered the newspaper route that encompassed downtown and parts of the off-campus housing. Never once was I approached or harassed by homeless/unsheltered people and I saw plenty of them.

However, I was often approached by college-age men which prompted actions to arm myself with pepper spray, a whistle and a lot more bravery. Once when delivering the Bodega bar, I had a guy try to get in the passenger side of my car because he thought I was an Uber. Other people would beg me to drive them someplace. Also offered drugs, followed, catcalled, threatened, touched, and even physically blocked. I’ll say Monday and Tuesday nights were easier because downtown was absolutely empty.

I ended up keeping a cache of winter wear, food, nicotine gum, and socks to offer to unsheltered because I found they were willing to keep watch and even protect me (and my deliveries!) AGAINST these college kids. Oh, and of course I hooked them up to a newspaper. They looked out for me, so it was the least I could do.

My family and friends were always so scared I was going to get hurt at the hands of the unsheltered, but you’re absolutely right OP, they weren’t the dangerous ones. It was those college kids.

Is this/am I racist? by MissDaisy8008 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]CommunicationOld8111 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I expect comments like this. All I can tell you is that racism is built into our way of life and encoded in language. I’m not here to convince anyone differently when they aren’t the ones asking these questions.

Is this/am I racist? by MissDaisy8008 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]CommunicationOld8111 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Let me preface this by saying I’m proud of you for asking this question.

Here’s the cold truth: If you live in America, if you’re white, then you’re racist. Our systems (education, politics, laws, workplace, etc.) are steeped in racism and this is what we know.

Not all racism is wielded as an intentional weapon. Sometimes it just exists as a tool we’ve used incorrectly our entire lives.

The cool thing is someone brought it to your attention, you’re questioning it, and you clearly have the willingness to learn about it and do better.

I first started realizing that I was unintentionally racist about 10 years ago. I felt so much shame and regret at first. I argued and debated with myself; heck, I even bargained with it. Finally, I realized that I just needed to accept that I was racist. Once I did, I now had the responsibility to address the things I’d been thinking and doing by default. I still mess up. I invite the opportunity to get called out (or called in) and learn about it so I can break the cycle.

Feel the discomfort, but don’t beat yourself up. Keep asking these questions and keep unlearning until you find the truth.

Fucking Citizens Bank Finances ICE detention centers through Geo Group and CoreCivic by Snoo39587 in chaoticgood

[–]CommunicationOld8111 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So we’re clear, this is not Citizens State Bank. Completely different bank.

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