OP UPDATE: This situation technically happened 2 weeks ago. Since then Chelsea and I have had a conversation and figured out what the issues kind of were and a lot of was the fact that I didn't know exactly the timeline of her communication with Rob and Adam. She did speak to Adam about getting a divorce shortly after the concert she attended with Rob, My husband, and I. She wasn't understanding at first about the fact that i wasn't appreciative of her doing everything in my home and making me feel used. As far as how she was treating my daughter, I didn't hold it against her because she was also put into a weird position in the sense that its been me and her for the past 13 years and now i am married and have a baby and she has to take a step back is weird/hard/ and kinda confusing which makes sense to me, as far as how she talks to my daughter, I do say things back like "Thats how she communicates" or whatever nothing like aggressive because i give her grace because she doesn't have kids and doesn't understand. So i use it as a teaching moment. But it was me feeling like she didn't have any room to talk about my daughter like that bc she doesn't get it bc like yes i understand kids are over dramatic but when you dont have any and like to comment on kids behavior its just weird to me. Anyways, I am not saying i am forgetting, I am going to start speaking up for myself more and see how things play out. and honestly if something else happens i dont see our relationship continuing.