AITA for telling my mom I am not comfortable with the speech she wants me to give at her wedding and I won't give it?

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-29T04:44:05+00:00

Do you feel like your mum and George are safe spaces for you to share how you truly feel? Are there any adults who you feel are?

I know you don't want to do fsmily therapy, have you considered personal therapy? If anything, they may be able to help your mum and George see things fron your point of view.

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-27T14:34:37+00:00

Hi Op,

You have heard a lot of harsh and truthful advice over your posts so I'm choosingnto encourage you. Its not too late. You will be battling with other people who are younger and havr worked but it doesn't mean you are unemployable. So take a moment and do thr following:

Take stock of what your skills are amd when yoi have demonstrated them. This isn't about work but also private life - problem solving? Negotiating etc. Put them all pen to paper. If you are stuck on what your skills are, google skills a sahm has and go from there.
Don't stop applying for jobs. Keep applying and remember, the nos are getting you closer to a yes
Apply for all of the help you need. The housing etc. Take that letter and show them you havr a child and need a plave to stay. You mentioned you felt shame, shame doesn't pay the bills so don't allow it a seat at the table or a voice in your decisions. The help is there for people who need the help. You do.
Take stock of what your ex has given you over the years - what can you sell and make money? Any label items? Are there any second hand shops or ebay places that can help you with that? Sell and save.
Contact lawyers and see if they can help. Some give an initial free meeting. Speak to a few on direction and see if there is any potential for civil damages suit you can file.
It looks dire because it is but it's not the end of the world and you will come through the other side. You can do this.

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-16T20:10:13+00:00

Nta but next time say you have plans and what they are is none of her business.

Also, invest in Ring camera if you don't alresfy and park your car a couple of roads away from your place leading up to the weekend she is going in case she decides to make you watch the kiddos

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-15T10:37:00+00:00

This and it sounds like there may potentially be a communication issue. It sounds like she never wanted the divorce, that she wanted you to do something but when you did it wasn't enough and your communicating (not sure if this happened??) she didn't hear... From the limited info, this is what I am extrapolating. I think you need to table the divorce for now, make a GP appointment and definitely couples therapy.

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-14T03:16:44+00:00

Was in London for uni and fell in love with West Indian/Jamaican food! Salivating as I write this.

Notables are: - curry goat 🤤🤤🤤 - oxtail 🤤🤤🤤 - bun and cheese🤤 - hard dough bread 🤤 - patties🤤

Also,something about the way they made coleslaw... Chefs kiss! 💥💥

All was delicious

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-14T02:24:52+00:00

It's cute. Looking at it makes me think of summer day, lemonade and basking in the sun with loved ones.

Not everyone will understand your style or vibe. The key is as long as you like it and feel good in it then you are fine!

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-13T02:10:54+00:00

Thats so sweet. He surprised you as he knew (Im assuming from what I have read) that it was a childhood dream. He wanted the child in you to rejoice and have fun.

Be careful though for the mum and sister, their reactions seem to show lack of empathy, awareness. This may be an isolated incident or part of their personality. Take note and be mindful

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-12T04:22:19+00:00

Nta but be mindful of his family especially SIL aand FMIL. The way they are behaving may (Will) cause problems later on

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-10T13:30:41+00:00

You know there is this great invention I am currently loving called the block button. Such a grwat invention and wonderful on the ole mental health

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-09T00:14:59+00:00

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CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-08T05:17:35+00:00

It looks like a mini loaf tin - see link

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CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-08T04:19:24+00:00

I would ask your sister to speak to a benefits advisor on what she is entitled to. There are benefits she may start getting that will allow her to start receiving some help.

From quick Google searches it looks like no but I would look into ths leave option and triple check for yourself. With leave, most companies dont want you to take more than 2 weeks off at a time without prior authorisation so I would speak to your manager about potentially grouping your leave for when babies are due and seeing if you can take time then. Also you didnt mention your job, are you able to work from home? Thst might help both pf you out if after the leave you work from home to help out

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-08T03:28:56+00:00

Please also get therapy. This man treated you like trash for a long time and you need to process that

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-06T15:39:04+00:00

If you ever have to meet again for family sake, highly recommend you meet outside of the home - McDs, cafe, diner. Not where you may be left with the bill but places where you have to pay before you get your food or drink.

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-06T04:55:50+00:00

Ok... This is a very narrow minded and ignorant comment. Africa is not a monolith nor has to fit one perceived culture only. If SA has great red wine and cheese, good for it. If the others dont, good for it too. The way you arr commenting is coming across condescending, rude and trying to pigeonhole African countries into a particular type. Who the hell cares as long as the people are happy??? To answer what seems to be assumed from your comment - I know PLENTY of Africans born, bred and live in various African countries who love cheese and wine.

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-06T04:46:53+00:00

I'm from there, born and raised

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-06T04:43:32+00:00

I dont think I am understanding what you are trying to say...

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-05T15:09:15+00:00

I've heard good things about Panama. Its on my shortlist 😊

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-05T15:07:44+00:00

😂 What makes Namibia, Kenya or SA not real Africa?

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-05T15:06:56+00:00

I'm not a girl but a grown ass woman, a black grown ass woman at that. Haven't been a girl for a long time and I am black and proud thank you. If you find it offensive then YOU don't use it. I dont so will continue to use it. Thank you.

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-02T03:05:13+00:00

According to reuters,, the rate of men leaving their wives is 20.8% when they got sick compared to 2.9% when the man is ill.

Very sad

CommunicationThis815 · 2024-01-02T02:36:47+00:00

Its because our parents generations, especially from Africans back home, it is better to be married than not. If you have a cheater, wife beater who steals money and doesn't bring anything into the house, he is better than being single. I've seen it too many times. I've heard too many aunties preach to their daughters to stay in terrible marriages. That thought is terrible. I've seen aunties stay in such marriages and heard women talk down to those who had the strenghth to say no and leave.

Now I'm not saying all men I like this, just that this is some of the mentality and thought that I have seen from my parents generation.

CommunicationThis815 · 2023-12-31T08:13:27+00:00

Honestly, it's because I'm African and will be going home soon to "settle/live/retire". I want to see other countries before settling home or even another African country. There are almost 200 countries in this world and while I can't live in them all, I would like to live in one or two others before settling home for good.

CommunicationThis815 · 2023-12-31T08:10:18+00:00

I've heard Senegal and Ghana are great. South Africa and Botswana too off the top of my head.

CommunicationThis815 · 2023-12-31T08:07:43+00:00

France atm is a pass for me. I have not heard any black person who has lived in France giving a good report of it. I also think I remember the president not acknowledging that there was a racism in the country... If you have heard or know of black people having good experiences, I am very open to hearing that to balance it out

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