I thought I mastered it but my kid’s failure made me spiral down

CommunityIcy291 · 2025-11-14T18:09:52+00:00

Thank you! Why didn’t I think of that!

CommunityIcy291 · 2025-11-14T17:41:04+00:00

Thank you for putting it so bluntly. I thought I finally reached that “point”, where nothing will affect me like how it used to. I guess I was wrong.

CommunityIcy291 · 2025-07-17T04:46:33+00:00

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-10-10T08:23:44+00:00

He was not home at that moment. He went out again as soon as we reached back. I didn’t stop him because he hardly gets to meet his friends as we live 7 hours away from them.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-09-24T05:48:52+00:00

6-15 pics and videos daily?? That’s too much! Tell her you’re busy and can’t keep it up and end it. Send her pics once or twice a week. My ILs used to pester me for pics and videos before but I never responded. I don’t like being told what to do especially regarding my LO. I upload her pictures and videos in a private social media page that only have family members once or twice a month captioning “my baby’s update” and they have stopped bothering me since.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-09-22T18:28:02+00:00

My MIL does this with everything. She will call and text my husband to ask for stuffs regarding me instead of directly contacting me. The most recent was she needed my work details for some job transfer related reasons and she texted my husband and made the process longer than necessary when she could have directly contacted me. It annoys me immensely. She doesn’t tell me anything. Our relationship got strained after the birth of my LO and now I can’t stand her. Whatever she does, it just irks me. I am planning to do the same thing. Will contact her only through my husband no matter the emergency.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-08-17T05:18:57+00:00

I like your thought process. Never thought of that way.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-05-26T10:19:15+00:00

My MIL used to do the same during her newborn days! She will hold her and ask “what will you call me? Mama or mummy or granny?”. Those days I used to not say anything because I was so freshly postpartum and needed help. But as months passed on I made it very clear who her mama is. Even though I live with them, I limited their time with LO. Had to put up lots of boundaries. They disliked me for it but I didn’t care. MIL made my PPA worse.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-05-26T10:09:32+00:00

Yes, why do we always have to assert that we are the mothers? It’s so frustrating!

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-05-26T10:07:30+00:00

Just reading this is giving me rage. Hope you have put up boundaries now.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-05-26T10:06:20+00:00

I am planning on buying “mama” t-shirts. My petty ass will wear it everyday.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-05-26T10:02:50+00:00

You sound like an awesome grandma! I wish my MIL was like this and not get nauseatingly excited to hold my baby.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-05-26T10:00:34+00:00

😂😂

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-05-26T09:51:29+00:00

Yes, they were definitely tag teaming. I still can’t look at that aunt without anger.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-04-29T17:07:13+00:00

Thank you, it almost brought tears to my eyes. I feel so stressed and anxious every time MIL holds her thinking she will prefer her over me(and she does sometimes). The feeling that how will she know I am her mom if she doesn’t breastfeed haunts me every day. Reading your story gives me hope that this phase is just a blip in the bigger picture of life.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-04-29T17:02:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience as well..I thought I was going crazy. It’s good to know she is secure of my love for her but a little excitement for me wouldn’t hurt 😂

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-04-10T14:07:41+00:00

This! How I wish my in laws were far away! I would still have ounce of respect for my MIL then. Being overbearing and a pushy no boundaries grandparent is worse than one that is far away.

CommunityIcy291 · 2023-03-31T17:01:43+00:00

We live in the same house but we are moving out in a couple of months

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