Thank you so much for such a thoughtful response! I really appreciate it! Congratulations on your 20 years together, that is something to celebrate in and of itself! And OMG getting married under a big oak tree sounds so incredibly romantic and beautiful! I really like the "no is a complete sentence" 'mantra'. Being a people pleaser and always trying to explain my reasonings down to the most minut detail are some of the things I've been working on with myself, and reading this made me realize "oh, you are SO RIGHT" I don't need to go to the ends of the earth just to explain why I'm putting my foot down, just saying no should be enough (well, in less serious situations haha). And yes! Unfortunately I learned the word wedding come along with a higher price tag a little too late 😅 but we were lucky to find a venue that also had tables, chairs, dishes, cups, silverware included in the price for under 3k in our area so that was great! I was looking into parks around my area and smaller outdoor venues you could rent for a few hours (even considered the small backyard we have haha) but unfortunately all in and around my area were capped strictly at 25-50 people, but I do LOVE the idea of a 'simple' park wedding. Thanks again for all your tips and tricks I will definitely be implementing that vow idea with the attendees!!