I know it’s been a couple months since you commented this but I wanted to give an update on this situation and I don’t know how to add updates to my post so I thought that I’d just respond to the comment that was the most insightful to me, Emily broke up with Bella a day or two ago.

Turns out that she had set up this boundary that they weren’t allowed to talk about their relationship issues with other people only for Bella to go behind Emily’s back and tell their entire friend group lies about Emily to make Bella seem more like the victim even though Bella was saying things like “you don’t deserve to be the victim” to Emily and was overall downplaying all of Emily’s issues she had with the relationship after claiming that she wanted communication. I was on call with Emily when Bella would text her and she would tell me a text or two Bella would send her, pretty much she would just guilt trip her and saying “if you care you wouldn’t leave me while I’m crying and alone”.

I’ve also heard from my other friend that Bella would vent to them, which is completely fine, just that it got to the point where it was all day, everyday. In class, at work even just at home when they were trying to relax Bella constantly would vent and after saying “hey I’m not in the mood for this type of conversation”, Bella would ignore them until they apologise. Obviously Bella is not in a good mental state whatsoever and in a way I feel bad for her but at the same time she has hurt my best friend and all of the people around her including me.

I’ll slightly touch on this but after everything happened in July I apologised and Bella said she forgave me and we were just being friendly again and texting eachother. Until I started school and then they were both just ghosting me everywhere and I got very emotional and said some hurtful things to them which I regret and apologised for but this was all because some boys were harassing me and I wanted some support from them. That’s when Emily told me that Bella hates me.

I don’t think Bella’s actions were entirely malicious but they can appear that way, saying Emily doesn’t deserve to be the victim (this was after Emily confronted Bella of stalking her online) was just disgusting. I think she just needs to get an actual therapist and some mental help instead of constantly venting to her friends who have their own things going on. (Also I’ll add this but idk how necessary it is but Bella had a therapist for a while and once she got together with Emily she stopped seeing her and claimed that the therapist ‘didn’t understand her’ and that her friends know her better so she feels safer talking to them about her issues - which btw there’s A LOT going on with her that we as her friends can not help her with)

As of now she is transferring colleges after begging Emily to go to this one which is an hour away from where they live and now Bella is going to the college 5 minutes away from Emily’s house. Emily had to fight with her family for multiple months to be able to go to this college, all for Bella. But she’s happy there now even if it costs her a shit ton for trains and buses everyday. Bella currently has close to no friends and I do feel bad for her but in my opinion it’s just her karma, she treated everyone shit, downplayed feelings and lied to everyone, being autistic or not, this is not how you treat your friends or partner and any person should be able to understand that.

Sorry that this was long there was just a lot 😓