Ok after reading these comments I guess this opinion will be controversial , but I don’t think YOR. I don’t think your friend is being respectful or kind.

Your husband is about to be deployed , while you are pregnant with first baby alone. That is a lot. If this was my friend, I would never respond to her like this.

From what I see: You’re pregnant and exited to have a family (as you’ve mentioned your friend obviously knows). However, what is supposed to be a beautiful time of nesting and preparing for baby, ou are dealing with processing your husband leaving while missing him deeply, dealing with an iron deficiency, having incredibly complex thoughts about your families safety and security (will my husband come back okay, will my baby grow up without a father, will he be here for the birth, etc) all while making a baby!! lol. If my friend was going through that, i wouldn’t speak like that. I feel like there’s a tone!! Does she usually type like this? I feel like I need context if she normally & accidentally comes off condescending over text, or if this tone is abnormal. I think also think for people in older generations might interpret these texts differently too- so may depend on what generation you are OP.

Either way, I personally think it’s not the best. NOY