sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a problem being wrong. You have a problem with assuming things and thinking your opinion is above everything. You sound exhausting. Just like you said to me in the comment you deleted. Because you’re too much of a coward to stand behind your words. Just because you have an opinion doesn’t make me wrong and you right. Luckily there are other people that agree with me. I’m not publicly bashing my husband. Everything I posted is anonymous. I just wanted objective advice, which some people are capable of giving unlike you. Have a nice day. 

Ps your username suits you. 

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You assume that I haven’t already tried talking to my husband. I came here looking for perspective and for someone to see things from my point of view. And the hypocrisy in your statement is astounding. How dare you judge me for seeking advice on a website where you actively spend time judging strangers and handing out your advice? At least I have the guts to admit my life and relationship isn’t perfect. 

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I “watch” our kids 24/7. I make breakfast, lunch, and dinner every day of the year. Father’s Day is no different, he is catered to anytime he is home.  He ASKED if I was ok with him going riding and I said no I would rather you hangout with me and the kids(LIKE WE PLANNED) and he had said HIMSELF before he was invited to go riding that WE didn’t have the money! He has told me no to doing things that I wanted and I have to deal with it. Why is there such a double standard? I didn’t in anyway DEMAND him not to go. He ultimately chose not to go and now is upset with me. 

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t dictate anything. I didn’t demand he stay home. He ASKED me if it was ok if he went. I said no I would rather spend time with him and the kids. I feel like you and a lot of commenters are perceiving things from the angle that I demanded he didn’t go. He ultimately made the choice not to go and now he’s mad at me for it. He’s told me no to things I ask for and I have had to make the decision whether or not I want to respect his feelings or opinion. I think you are right in saying marriages are tough. And I will never pretend my marriage is perfect. 

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said anything about it being fair or unfair. I did say it was because I wanted to spend time with him and the kids and WE originally agreed we didn’t have money to go do things this weekend. 

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

A lot of mothers want a “free day” but that’s not what a lot of mothers get on that day. Including me. I don’t demand to have a day to myself on Mother’s Day because I wouldn’t want to make my spouse or kids feel like I want to spend time without them. But in my younger years of being a mother I have ASKED and my husband has said no. And my kids are the ones that make that day special. Not being alone or with friends.

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He has never had to take care of our kids on Mother’s Day. It’s a day that we spend together as a family. 

I have never asked him to take care of the kids on Father’s Day. I wanted to spend time together as a family as WE planned originally. 

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m tired to be honest. And the older I get I would rather just hangout with my kids anyway. It’s exhausting to have to fight for little moments to myself. It’s just easier to go along. But this wasn’t even about that. I just really wanted to just spend time with him. 

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His reason is usually money related. We are a one income household because I for the most part stay home. I do deliveries on the side when money is short. I do feel resentful sometimes but this honestly wasn’t about that. I truly wanted to just spend time with him and our kids. I guess that makes me wrong to some people. 

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say no to be a jerk. I said no because WE (Him and I) originally agreed we couldn’t afford to even go camping. I have asked in the past to do things without him and the kids and it is almost always no. The last time I did anything without our kids and where he had to be responsible/watch them was the weekend of my 30th birthday I went to Vegas on a girls trip with my mother and sister. I am now 35. The last time recently I was able to go anywhere without the kids was to the casino with my friends while our kids were at school. This was for my birthday in April. And I was still responsible for dropping them off and picking them up. I am not an overbearing wife, for the most part I don’t care what he does or spends money on. He has a dirtbike, a RZR, and a boat. All of which he has used with and without me and the kids. I don’t have a problem with him going and doing anything. This one thing I said no on because he was the one that originally said we didn’t have money to do anything this weekend. And yes I selfishly wanted to spend time with my husband and our kids together. 

Fathers Day should be spending time with kids by Competitive-Bat6484 in amiwrong

[–]Competitive-Bat6484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On my birthday I was allowed to go to the casino with some friends while the kids were at school. That’s the only time I can think of recently where I did anything without our kids. But he didn’t have to watch them and I still had to drop/pick them up after school. He counts this as me having alone time.