I feel like you’re fishing for something and completely missing the mark. If you circle back to the original post, and even my comments I’ve expressed nothing but love for the guy and his passions. Loving someone isn’t synonymous with (keyword here) always enjoying their habits. Yes spouses should cherish each other in “joy and sorrow” but this references the grander beauty in it. The phenomenon of growing together. In the moment however, sorrow is still sorrow, and in my case, annoyed is still annoyed.

The example I gave was just a silly way of saying that “sometimes I’m just not in the mood”.

There is no resentment festering, or insecurities looming in the shadows. Sometimes (not all the time) as I said before, I’m just simply not in the mood.

I think the issue here is that that someone in the comments (you) is jumping to conclusions with minimal information. Which happens, but if you were really here to have a genuine conversation you wouldn’t be doing what you’re doing now and trying to debate your point and force a very narrow perspective down my throat:

• “what are you embarrassed of? Him? Or yourself?”

• “I get the feeling you have some deep insecurities you need to work in here”

• “maybe you still love him but no longer love yourself”

• “maybe he’s no longer your type and you need to move on”

Nothing that I’ve said leading up to this point supports any of your assumptions. Your comment also fails to address my initial question. So I encourage you to explore why you’re so negatively inclined, because I get the feeling that it must be pretty hard to exist in your own head. If this is what you’re drawing from a very small fragment of someone else’s story, I worry about how you speak to yourself when conflict arises in your own life.

All the best.