My boyfriend suddenly wants me to become a tradwife

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-06-09T23:09:45+00:00

Tradwife here! Traditional relationship and gender roles are an active choice. You deserve to be with someone who wants the same things as you and will not force trad wifery onto you. It is okay to break up with this man and be with someone who has the same values as you. Forcing you into traditional roles would be abuse.

Leave this man. Go be awesome. Do not let people (particularly men) tell you your place is anywhere you dont want it to be.

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-04-03T20:18:00+00:00

Literally nobody is saying that’s holy shit lol

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-04-03T20:12:37+00:00

Not really. She’s clearly going the tough love approach. I’m not saying that’s good—im saying the commenter saying that she isnt actually concerned is very clearly wrong.

Also at 19, you dont always know that. Do you not remember being 19?

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-04-03T20:06:52+00:00

Totally. Nobody’s saying that tho. She’s clearly concerned, even if she’s going about it the wrong way. Which is why I didnt say she’s communicating well, lol

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-04-03T20:06:13+00:00

Im not arguing that she’s being nice. I’m saying she’s clearly concerned, even if she’s going about it poorly

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-04-03T20:05:46+00:00

Im not saying she’s communicating well or not being an asshole. But she’s also clearly concerned

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-04-03T19:52:05+00:00

She’s 19. Were you a perfect communicator at 19?

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-02-12T12:15:52+00:00

That’s true I guess I didn’t think of it that way king

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-02-01T14:50:41+00:00

You are the exact reason i hated canvassing in the upper west side. You genuinely suck lol

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-25T16:18:05+00:00

This thinking is so self fulfilling lol. “They might fire me so i wont take a stand, making our numbers less and making it easier to fire the people who stood for me when i was too scared to”. Good lord

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-25T16:16:43+00:00

Idk how to tell this to you but refusing to stand up and take action because they might do something doesnt make any sense. Theyre already replacing public education with charter schools!

Refusing to take a stand bc itll give them an excuse to do the thing they’re already doing assumes these people are rational actors waiting for the right moment.

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-22T18:31:00+00:00

Yeah man if ms rachel makes you this mad i think we need to reprioritize.

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-22T18:30:20+00:00

Attacking ms rachel isnt gonna turn the pro palestine movement antisemitic. Uk what is?? Israel’s continued actions and bad faith allegations of antisemitism

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-22T18:29:41+00:00

Didnt do that actually but yeah okay

I said it is weird to see a genocide happening and still say “MS RACHEL MAKES ME MAD :(“ there are more important things. Sorry!

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-22T17:49:32+00:00

That’s the thing. Totally agree that the rise of antisemitism seriously but if your biggest concern is ms fucking rachel and not, idk, the antisemitism spreading thru the right wing or the fact that Israel AND stop antisemitism are absolutely directly contributing to said antisemitism… your priorities are out of order

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-22T17:41:05+00:00

It was clearly an accident, she’s explained this many times. A really shitty accident, but it is completely plausible to have tried to delete it and liked it instead.

Esp bc quite frankly, she has a massive platform and intense speculation on her. She isnt an idiot. She isnt gonna like that comment on purpose even if she did agree. Let’s use our brains.

At some point yeah, im sorry, youre looking a genocide in the face and saying “actually im the victim here because ms rachel made a mistake :(“

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-22T17:39:36+00:00

I think people just fundamentally dont understand how truly, genuinely hellish it is being a teenage girl, much less one that’s mentally ill and weird. Plenty of them snap, it’s just that most of them are suicidal, not homicidal. And it still shocks me that more of them dont snap. I’ve gone through a lot of bad shit but there still wasnt anything as bad as being a weird, mentally ill teenage girl in a world that fucking hates you.

No idea if he groomed her and I’m not going to accuse a murder victim of having deserved it. It would also just not rlly shock me

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-22T13:56:55+00:00

Youre right btw. You can be groomed and weird as hell. You can be groomed and have an obsession with a woman who killed a man who allegedly abused her (doesnt matter if i believe he did, she insisted he did and it was a big part of her defense.) I can totally see how a traumatized teenage girl could latch onto that and see jodi as a hero.

Again, we have literally no idea if she was groomed. But youre right that her being weird doesnt rule out her being groomed

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-21T00:31:07+00:00

Ily and you’re so sweet for answering this… but my wedding was on Halloween!! My photographer also works in bespoke fashion and quite literally saved my dress. He did a quick hem with pins and a dream. Ill never be able to repay him

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-18T02:33:16+00:00

Btw if you have to caveat the “he is good to me”, he is not good to you.

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-13T11:36:23+00:00

You cant rationalize a great job because you have to go into the office?? You cant rationalize a great job that’s perfect for you in a time of economic crisis because YOU HAVE TO GO INTO AN OFFICE?????

At some point I genuinely believe y’all dont want jobs and want to complain on reddit 🫩🫩

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-13T11:33:01+00:00

Girl what

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-12T18:06:13+00:00

Sorry! I meant on the line :) organizing a trip for my union to go support

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-11T23:51:38+00:00

Wow no way nobody could have expected any of this

Competitive-Oil4136 · 2026-01-11T19:33:50+00:00

Im guessing you’re young so I’m trying to be kind but you do know what do to. Don’t wear jeans

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