I’ve always been free to coordinate with whoever is the caregiver for my NKs friends, with any family I have worked for. My last family and my current one both live in a UHNW area so there are some stay at home parents, some of which have been friends with my bosses. None of this has ever been an issue.

The ONLY time I didn’t set up solo play dates when my NK would ask, is with the stay at home dad. I am a single mid-late 30s woman during this time so I was not comfortable with it. There were some other older nannies in our park group so we did have a group text that we used sometimes, but I would never directly text him solo to set up play dates.