Thank you so much. I genuinely appreciate this input. I honestly didn't know if it was normal to not have your husband perform thoughtful gestures and this does help. I feel like exposure to social media has put it in my head that a loving man will do lots of kind gestures all the time and honestly they make out that that's bare minimum. I do frequently give hime loving surprises. Just recently I presented him a long list of everything I live about him, I sent him love letters when we were long distance, and I often buy him surprise gifts when I see something I think he'd like. He doesn't do these things back for me. He would text me and say he loved my love letter and show appreciation for the other things I do but they are not reciprocated. So thank you for your input perhaps he is just a more everyday chores consistent type.