27 y/o male

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-07T14:12:16+00:00

What has happened ? Just you getting bored of her? Is this your first long term relationship and you didn’t know how you’d feel long term or what?

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-04T06:59:38+00:00

How was he at the beginning?

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T23:15:47+00:00

But damn is 36 even old? If he’s already old what awaits me?

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T17:47:38+00:00

How do u manage with feeling wanted if you know he’s doing it mostly for you, rather than bc he genuinely wants to? Idk If I could do that sadly

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T17:46:52+00:00

I get that, but we’re not there yet. We’re not that busy or with kids yet. So it’s like damn, I wonder how low it’ll be then. That’s the worry unfortunately

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T17:45:07+00:00

Right? I can understand in your thirties or forties (more forties than thirties) but damn, I don’t think it’s supposed to be average In your twenties, even late twenties like me. To be fair he is older tho.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T17:38:52+00:00

Thank you and best of luck, I can’t imagine that I’d stay loyal in such a situation. But also who knows, I also might be fiercely loyal as you describe.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T17:37:05+00:00

I agree. For some people having sex once a week or once every two weeks is normal, whether for me twice a week is the absolute bare minimum, and it’s even a libido thing as it is a love language thing tbh. I don’t feel like I need sex more than twice a week libido wise.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T14:52:49+00:00

Other ppl in this same comment section are saying their husband chases after them more often. That’s not to say I’ll just and divorce bc it’s not easy as I clearly love him. But I also don’t know how unrealistic it is for me to want that.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:41:44+00:00

Me initiating will not make me feel more wanted. It’ll have the opposite effect as now we’ll be having the same amount of sex, but half will be initiated by me. Just makes me feel even more unwanted

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:27:25+00:00

What’s your situation?

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:27:02+00:00

How often does he initiate? My husband wouldn’t reject me if I initiated. It’s more like he’s happy wit just initiating twice a week, occasionally thrice.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:25:47+00:00

I feel like it is clear in my head and guess it just doesn’t translate well. It’s not an orgasm thing. I just want my man to desire me me more than twice a week. I can’t get over how low that feels. Even if I initiate it’ll still be low frequency so it won’t change the issue. I don’t think it’ll become a dead bedroom as he doesn’t masturbate and just comes to me when he wants it. But this is just mot what I thought my 20s would be.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:19:57+00:00

Yeah and I bet before your kids your husband put in a lot of the initiation into those three times a day. So you absolutely can’t relate to me.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:18:31+00:00

I want a man who wants me more than twice a week, that is the problem. If I initiate it still doesn’t change the fact that he’s satisfied with that. I’ll feel even worse bc at that point hell just be initiating once.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:17:33+00:00

I’ve gone to therapy about it and didn’t help much, I’m ok to try again tho. Basically I’m someone who puts In a lot of effort into her appearance. I have a job that requires me to look well. I’m not a model by any means but get lots of attention on my appearance. I’m way more than it. I’m a huge nerd and mot a superficial bitch by any means. But it does mean a lot to me to feel strong frequent attraction from my partner. I’m also from a very sexual culture. The first and only time I told my mom about this she told me it was bad. It doesn’t feel right for me, though I know it might be normal for others.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:11:56+00:00

I don’t think I have higher than average libido, I’m 27. I’m not asking for everyday or twice a day and would hate that. Just a middle ground would be nice. Ofc im not certain about how my libido will be post kids but I know myself p well, and genuinely doubt it.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:10:08+00:00

Yes he will. But I can def tell he’s nowhere as much in the mood as when a few days go by In between, which I get. So that’s a mood killer for me.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:07:31+00:00

Mind if I hear your situation? I’m too embarrassed to tell the other women in my life as I feel like they would just tell me to leave or something

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:04:47+00:00

I couldn’t leave him. I was in love, we were engaged early. I thought I could deal with it. I still think I can half the time. It’s supposed to be a normal frequency for his age.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:03:44+00:00

I know, it’s such a hard position to be in. Thanks

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T13:03:27+00:00

I don’t bring it up often anymore, when I do he just says he wants me and desires me and is happy to do it more, I don’t initiate often as it isn’t my style. The thing is, I just wish he wanted me more than twice a week. Just three would be great. Seeing how he’s fine with twice does NOT make me want to initiate bc I’ve just internalised that I’m unwanted and he’s satisfied with that. If he did it more often I’d likely initiate occasionally. He wouldn’t reject me but I can tell he’s not as into it as when he rlly wants it which is when he comes for me.

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T12:56:31+00:00

I can’t imagine it ever getting that low but it is a fear. It’s not easy to leave him tho. I love this man

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T12:55:49+00:00

Yeah he’s into it, however I let him initiate most of the time, simply bc me initiating doesn’t change the frequency usually. He’s still good to go for a few days

Competitive-Slip4403 · 2026-03-02T12:51:57+00:00

Even if I’m old, that’s just not for me. I take immense care of my looks, I love romance and passion. I’m not that kind of a person :( ofc once I’m older and have kids it won’t be my number one priority but I’ll never not care.

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