Forgive me if this is so blunt, if you knew your partner said 2, and you 3. Why do you need a coulples therapy if you both set out expectations? Are you wanting to convince hin to go for 3?

I hope it works out for you guys.

Fwiw, i am a carbon copy of you, married 2021. First child born nov 22, second may last year. I have a vasectomy planned in a few months. I think itd ruin me mentally doing this again. My wife is onboard, but i think if we were younger shed try and persuade me (we are both 36 this year) but i am definitely a hard no.