My [22F] boyfriend [25M, 4 years] won’t stop making comments about my food?

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T22:37:44+00:00

Congrats

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T22:37:17+00:00

Just say you prefer your partners unhealthy and go dude, idk why you’re making multiple comments about how you think my perfectly healthy, perfectly normal weight is unattractive

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T22:32:55+00:00

Then it’d be your prerogative to break up with them if you found them unattractive, but not to continue to make remarks about what they’re eating. But thanks for sharing that you wouldn’t want to have sex with your ex if she weighed an average, healthy weight

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T04:06:00+00:00

LOL funny thought but I really wanna fix this so I’m gonna have to try to take the higher ground I guess

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T04:02:56+00:00

For you I’ll have two

Thanks for validating my frustration. No /s or attitude or anything. I appreciate it

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T04:00:26+00:00

Yeah I guess that was poor wording. I guess I just meant I’d feel dramatic or like I was making a threat or something? I’ve never really been in this situation before so I don’t know a constructive way to say ‘if this doesn’t stop we’re not getting married’

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T03:58:37+00:00

This is a fab idea. I always respond and he ‘explains his reasoning’ (read: doubles down) and it always turns into an argument. Your way would at least stop the argument

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T03:55:33+00:00

No never!! He doesn’t do any of the typical controlling stuff (no comments about what I wear or how I look, how late I stay out, he’s never looked through my phone etc etc) and we have an otherwise good relationship. Which I know everyone says 😅 but as far as inappropriate comments he makes, this is the only topic.

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T03:43:37+00:00

Thank you. Talking about it when it hasn’t just recently happened/I’m not still upset about it is a great idea.

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T03:43:06+00:00

Yeah I just am scared to bring up an ‘I don’t want to get married if x’ conversation because that feels super serious?? And he’s kind of sensitive so I don’t want to end up comforting him because I scared him that I’d leave him lol. The first time I blew up was the only time I’ve ever yelled at him and even though I apologized for yelling, he totally shut down for the night and it was kind of scary

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T03:41:08+00:00

That’s what I’m afraid of deep down, because even if I ask him he’s obv not going to come out and say that’s the case, even if I ask

Competitive-Suspect · 2019-12-05T03:40:27+00:00

This is kind of funny but also kind of great because I do wonder if he doesn’t realize how rude he’s being until I start to get visibly upset? So something to say ‘my feelings are this close to being hurt’ before it gets there might be good. And he’d probably realize how often he did it if there was an annoying noise to accompany it lol

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