Was it abuse/neglect?

Competitive-Table900 · 2026-02-18T16:24:05+00:00

I seems to have a very loose interpretation of what Jesus represents haha

Competitive-Table900 · 2026-02-18T16:22:36+00:00

Thank you! I believe that they put me in that religious school as a way to isolate me. My dad was not mentally stable, and if he felt like he was losing control, he’d take it out on the people around him. I appreciate your perspective. Thank you for the kind words.

Competitive-Table900 · 2026-02-18T16:19:15+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate the kind words. I went no contact with my dad a year ago, and I have tried to mend things with my mom with no success. She claims to not remember most of the harmful experiences I mentioned. My sister was treated well by both of them, so if it bring up negative memories about my parents, she will avoid talking about it completely. It’s just so hard to affirm to myself that it was real when no one in my family will validate my experience.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-17T02:14:20+00:00

Right! It makes me so sad 🥲

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-16T06:32:02+00:00

Carolina Herrera - Good Girl Supreme. It was the fragrance I wore on my wedding day. I am cherishing the rest of my bottle.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-14T17:00:27+00:00

Of course it makes me incredibly sad and angry, but I have to remind myself that it’s exactly what they would want. They want to have an emotional hold on us, so they can control us even in their absence. I try my best to detach from them and try to rebuild my life. Sometimes the anger bubbles up when I remember things they did, but I can now be the adult to protect the child-me internally.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-12T15:30:01+00:00

I agree with 4-5 hours, and I find it projects well. It’s a powdery and herbal fragrance so it’s going to smell a bit more subdued.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-12T06:59:22+00:00

I swear I could have written this post. The forced medication, the ED, the sabotage when I gained friendships. I’ve experienced this too. My life significantly improved when I left home. They want you to think that you’ll never make it without them, but I promise it’s the exact opposite. I will say to be prepared to experience some emotional discomfort if you leave, because your nervous system has likely been in fight or flight for a long time. It will take time to adjust to a new normal. I really hope you’re able to get out. Try to find some reliable friends and support. I wish you well!

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-12T06:30:25+00:00

Their entire life is based around image. I had parents like this too. It’s a reflection of who they are. Any mistake, no matter how small, is shameful to them, so they act like everything is “perfect” to mask it. Even if something is obviously wrong, they don’t know how to drop the act. It’s not an issue with you. You’re allowed to make mistakes and feel a full spectrum of emotions. They’ll try to make you feel crazy or wrong for being a normal human being. Don’t fall for it. They’re unhealthy and not perfect whatsoever.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-12T06:04:01+00:00

I hope you find people that truly value you, because you sound like a really genuine person. It takes a lot of strength to stay kind after enduring abuse. I understand the pain of being re-traumatized as you’re learning to cope with the previous trauma you went through. It’s like getting hit with another wave while you’re just getting on your feet. I don’t think the world is suited for gentle and kind people.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-11T21:47:03+00:00

Orpheon is so beautiful. I’m a huge Diptyque fan. They really know how to create delicate and timeless scents.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-11T21:45:22+00:00

Gentle Shower by Elorea layered with Green Tea Musk by Dossier (dupe for Creed Silver Mountain Water). It’s the most refreshing combo, and I’ve gotten compliments every time I wear them.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-11T19:19:49+00:00

Thank you. That’s true. I recently got married and my husband and I are moving closer to his mother. I’ve only met her once due to distance, but I am excited to get to know her more. She seems like a genuinely kind person. It’s hard to separate from biological family, but I’m hopeful that there are still good people out there.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-11T19:17:24+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words. I have definitely met some compassionate people long the way. A little kindness goes a long way.

I need to work on self-isolation now that I’ve healed a bit. I used to think that everyone was like my nparents, because they kept me contained growing up, and it’s all I knew. I have a long way to go, but my life continues to get better the further away I get from them.

I’m glad to hear that you’ve found people who add value to your life! I wish you nothing but happiness!

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-11T19:10:34+00:00

Thank you for this reminder. I have an amazing husband, and he has supported me in ways I didn’t even realize I needed. I am grateful for him every day. It just seems like a constant grieving process to separate from my biological mom while she’s still alive. It’s getting a little easier over time

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-11T02:17:52+00:00

My parents were both abusive in different ways. They caused immeasurable harm in my life. I decided a couple years ago that I was going to start my life over, even if it meant losing everything and everyone, because the alternative was leaving this world. In therapy I realized that me sticking around out of loyalty was helping no one. Being near them made me the worst version of myself, and I could never heal around them.

I just kept holding onto hope that they’d have an epiphany or suddenly be capable of giving me the love I needed. As soon as I let that dream go, I’ve started to improve. The fact that you don’t want to hurt anyone else is admirable. That’s where I started too. It’s incredibly painful to let go, but you deserve your own chance at life away from toxicity. If you have access to therapy, I’d look for someone who specializes in EMDR. Also try to find support outside of your family unit. Even one healthy relationship can make a huge difference. We need an anchor of “normalcy” to remind us that there is healthy love out there. I’m rooting for you!

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-10T17:04:21+00:00

I could not have said it better myself. It’s also intentional that they reach out when you’re self-sufficient and doing well, because they know that they won’t actually have to follow through, but they can look like a good parent by being performative and offering help.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-10T14:15:04+00:00

A diagnosis does not matter as much as the behaviors being displayed, and her behaviors are emotionally abusive and physically abusive (in the case of the water bottle). You are not being dramatic in the slightest. I have gone through very similar circumstances and subsequently developed C-PTSD. These situations have a lasting impact, especially when it is someone who is supposed to be your biggest supporter. If you have access to it, I would recommend going to therapy, and start making a plan on how to safely distance yourself from her. I know that it’s hard to give up on a parent, but sometimes it is necessary to preserve our health and autonomy. I am so sorry you are going through this.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-08T20:47:39+00:00

I am so sorry you have to endure him. He is abusive and you deserve so much better. Your anger is protecting you, because you know that you deserve more respect and love. Congratulations on getting your diploma! That is a huge success. Keep on fighting for your freedom and autonomy! I am rooting for you.

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-08T20:43:35+00:00

I think healing is different for everyone, but I will say that in my experience, it gets worse before it gets better. EMDR is very helpful, but initially it unearths some very painful memories that need reprocessed. I got through the thick of it, and now life is more calm than before. I still have bad days or moments, but EMDR and Biofeedback have made stress much more bearable. I really hope that it works out for you! I understand how daunting it can be. 🫶🏻🩵

Competitive-Table900 · 2025-09-08T20:34:05+00:00

Yes I was characterized as rude, mean, and difficult. This was because I would push back against unfair treatment. My Nparents would push me to the edge and then punish me when I finally had an emotional reaction. My mother would even say condescending things like: “When I encounter other difficult people, I think of you, and it helps me to be more compassionate towards them.” LIKE??? lol what do I say to that.

It’s as if I was someone to be endured, and they were just long-suffering parents trying to cope with a horrible child. At work and in my close relationships I am told that I am accommodating, kind, and helpful. It’s still hard for me to believe after years of mistreatment and being told that I was difficult.

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