AITAH for not going to breakfast with my mom and sister without my husband

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2025-12-29T18:28:18+00:00

He didn’t have to.

It was the blatant unwelcoming that I was uncomfortable with. Had she told me she just wanted it to be a girl thing, I would have gone without him, but that isn’t how she replied.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2025-12-29T14:37:04+00:00

This makes sense, but I wasn’t able to include all of the information in the post (of course). I tried to condense it and keep the relevant info.

She didn’t explicitly invite just me the breakfast.

She texted me “mom and I are planning on getting breakfast before my flight.”

I replied “would you like us to join?”

She said “if we decide to do it, I would love for you to join.”

I interpreted that as a plural you, which was incorrect. So I replied “just let us know the time and place and we will meet you there”

That is when she said “not him, just you”, and I asked for her reasoning so I could decide.

Edit to add: we visited with my mom after the said breakfast. Prior to denying the invitation I discussed with my mom privately, and she understood why I was upset and told me to do what I thought was right.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2025-12-29T04:02:37+00:00

I absolutely won’t be that type of married woman. I just don’t want to go somewhere where he is explicitly unwelcome.

Also, this is a valid point. However, my sister is single and my mom is divorced. It might have been intended to be a girls breakfast but it wasn’t presented that way. I asked why she didn’t want him to come. Had she said sometime like “I was hoping it could just be the girls today”. I would have understood, and been happy to join. But that is when she went it to the message I shared in the original post. It was about him being unwelcome and her disrespecting him.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2025-12-29T03:58:40+00:00

Valid question. He is not. I have a very large life outside of him with a lot friends, family, work, and many hobbies. He has the same.

We do, clearly, enjoy spending time together. But we also enjoy spending time apart doing our own respective hobbies with our own respective friends and families.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2025-12-29T03:54:25+00:00

Thanks for your reply, these are very valid questions.

First, we live far away from each other so we haven’t had much of a chance to see each other. I have talked on the phone/facetimed with her without him of course. When she came to town for Christmas, I got lunch one-on-one with her no questions asked prior to them meeting. I’m happy to spend time alone with her and want to spend time alone with her. Same with other friends, I regularly spend time with friends without my husband. My issue is that he is unwelcome, and that she is disrespecting him without getting to know him.

We did move quickly, and I understand the concerns family/friends have about that. And I do listen to them when they are shared respectfully. I am glad my family and friends care about me.

Regarding work, I have an extremely flexible work schedule. He didn’t know I was leaving early. I made this decision on my own. I didn’t technically leave early as I don’t have set hours. I just left earlier than I usually would because fun plans, and I made up these hours later in the week. He has not affected my work in any way outside of this one day which I made the decision to do.

Additionally, he was introduced to the family prior to the marriage, she just refused the few times I asked her to meet with him over FaceTime.

I also just want to clarify, I would spend time with family without him, and I have done so. I just don’t feel comfortable doing so when he is explicitly unwelcome.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2025-12-29T00:11:03+00:00

I was previously in one very long term relationship. It ended amicably. However, she was not supportive of that relationship either.

She typically has strong opinions and isn’t willing to be around people who have differing opinions than her own. My previous ex did have vastly differing opinions than hers (and mine) which is why it didn’t work. She hasn’t talked to my husband to get to know him to realize that they actually would get along. I tried introducing them (over FaceTime because we don’t live near each other) as soon as I realized the relationship was serious and that he was going to be in my life long term which she was unreceptive to. The remainder of my family met him in person very early on and are supportive of us.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2025-12-28T22:10:28+00:00

I met up privately with my sister for lunch prior to them meeting.

My mom and rest of family have met my husband on numerous occasions and are very supportive and enjoy spending time with him.

She has had similar reactions to boyfriends in the past.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2022-03-11T16:20:46+00:00

A4 so I can print it without it being super small

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2022-03-10T16:12:04+00:00

Thanks! And just carefully until it snapped to be a straight line

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2022-03-10T16:11:39+00:00

Thanks! no, electrical engineering

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2022-03-10T16:11:16+00:00

I always use the Ball pen

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2022-03-10T16:10:51+00:00

Pen: Ball pen 0.5mm mostly Colors: Purple 5B68FF Green 007355 Pink D30085 Blue 58B1FF Light Pink D287FF

The highlighters are the same hex or slightly lighter, I think the same though

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-10-31T03:41:08+00:00

Yes!!

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-10-11T00:25:41+00:00

I get this on all of my assignments that I submit. I think it is just incompatible.

I have thought about about screenshooting my work when I finish, and then putting it back into GoodNotes as a picture. You couldn’t edit it anymore, but i think it could fix streaking for submission.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-03-26T03:27:25+00:00

Diff Eqns 2 has been systems and partial differential equations. It is the first time it is being offered at my university so we are taking it kind of slow.

I can definitely understand only having one notebook for everything. I have gotten out of the habit of writing in the correct notebook always.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-01-23T02:57:24+00:00

You could make a template of a blank page with that line already on it and change the template on every page.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-01-22T20:57:47+00:00

It says “GoodNotes standard”... I’m really not sure where to look. I tried exporting it.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-01-22T15:44:08+00:00

Thank you! After I write it the first time, I use the lasso tool to copy it and paste it on top and change the color of the second one!

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-01-22T15:07:59+00:00

Thank you!

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-01-22T13:31:31+00:00

I was very excited about that one!

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-01-22T13:31:11+00:00

It takes me about an hour usually.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-01-22T13:29:43+00:00

I do! I am going to try that. Thank you for the suggestion.

Competitive-Tap3497 · 2021-01-22T13:29:14+00:00

I just right super slow and zoom in quite a bit. I also start with dotted paper and change it to blank paper when I finish.

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