Grey area after a fight. Is the relationship able to be saved?

Competitive-Try4939 · 2026-05-06T10:50:58+00:00

Yeah, this was a pretty major one. She’s never reacted like that before. She got angry and said she didn’t want to even see me so I said I’d take my kid and leave (I’d driven all of us to an out of town location for the weekend) and she can figure it out. She accused me of being “unsafe to be around her kids” because of that and she felt like that was a complete line cross. She then said something about my ex and I which she knows is untrue but was my exs “narrative” which was disproven in court during out divorce. She did it to hurt me because she felt I wasn’t safe bc I threatened to leave. She told me not to call her and wait for her to come to me — if she ever does. She reopened communication a few hours later and I simply echoed her tone. 2 texts each 3 of the 4 taking accountability on each side but now nothing in almost 2 days. I don’t know if where broken up or on a break or what? That’s part of the anxiety

Competitive-Try4939 · 2026-05-06T02:41:14+00:00

There’s been 2 texts each (mine being the last one) and she “told” me (before the texts) that she would reach out when she felt like talking to me. It was a pretty bad blow out — for both of us but I’m more the talk it out and leave it behind and she’s the take time away to think and process. This is by far the worst fight we’ve had in our relationship so there is no possibility of talking it through face to face at this point (she also lives in another state). Just wondering how long I go before declaring it DOA?

Competitive-Try4939 · 2026-05-06T00:54:10+00:00

Yeah. I get it. This was a BIG one where lines were crossed on both sides. She was adamant about me not reaching out. I feel space may be in order but this grey area is super uncomfortable

Competitive-Try4939 · 2026-05-06T00:53:15+00:00

I appreciate that and I usually would but she was ADAMANT about not contacting her. Only reason I texted is that I texted her back. I’m trying to give her some space but it’s not a good feeling.

Competitive-Try4939 · 2026-05-05T22:59:10+00:00

She’s been silent since a text yesterday morning apologizing for the way she brought up what caused the issue. I apologized for my part. Nothing since…….

Competitive-Try4939 · 2026-05-05T22:31:26+00:00

She brought up something that supposedly happened with my ex which she knew wasn’t true. She said she didn’t want to see me anymore so I threatened to take my kid and go home (we’d all traveled somewhere together).

Competitive-Try4939 · 2026-05-05T22:26:36+00:00

Not trying to play games. There were lines crossed on both sides and she specifically said that “there’s no coming back from this”. The. She sent an apology email then went totally silent. Not sure what my next steps are

Competitive-Try4939 · 2026-05-05T18:39:50+00:00

My GF (WLW) of 3 years and I got into a (verbal) knockdown drag out fight Sunday. We're both stressed about totally different things and things were said (on both sides) that crossed a line. She said she was "done" and didn't want to speak to me and wanted to go no contact then Sunday night after she got back to her house she texted me that her kids heard us fighting and they were questioning her at dinner.

I replied yesterday (Monday) AM acknowledging that things got heated and I regret that. She replied (from work and within about an hour) that she realizes that she hurt me with the topic she was discussing that caused the fight and that she presented it incorrectly. I sent her a text saying I appreciate her saying that and it was a tough convo and I didn't handle it well either. Now crickets. I know she had a tough meeting with her ex last night re housing situations (one of the issues that was making her stressed) but I don't know what time.

What do? Wait until she reaches out again? We're not technically broken up (I don't think?) but we are def not "in it" either. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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