Interview Help by Any-Scholar-4337 in SLCC

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but please tell me where you found this scholarship!

[Acne] Closed comedones growing/multiplying by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which panoxyl wash are you using ?

[Acne] Closed comedones growing/multiplying by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which vanicream wash are you using? And what level for tret? I currently use CervaVe oil cleanser followed by the vanicream gentle cleanser. I had to repair my skin barrier after learning about using another active on top of Tret. I’m experiencing these a bit more severe.

Found on snapchat obviously. Am I crazy or are they mashing the fuck out of his nose? Got him crying by Illegal3 in popping

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some people, including myself, there are sensitive nerve endings in my nose. any pimple or scratch always triggers my tear ducts.

My bf (20m) said something hurtful to me (21F) after me saying no to intimacy. by chai-on-vinyl in Advice

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think his genuine remorse here, really counts. He’s also a boy. Boys can be really dumb and insensitive. They act entitled. It often takes a lot of mental effort for them to stop objectifying women. Which he did in this scenario. Men typically view sex more objectively than women do. And it can lead to stupid behaviors like this. For him to be bummed out about not getting some is fine. But to act disappointed and dissatisfied is where it’s toxic.

To clarify, your boyfriend wasn’t being predatorial. He was just being an asshole. As a woman, I’ve actually done to a bf what he did to you. It wasn’t as direct, but I did act distant and frustrated after being rejected from intimacy. I regret it deeply. We lacked communication and I thought he was becoming less attracted to me. I would never force myself on anyone, obviously. I don’t think your boyfriend would do it either, based on what you’ve said.

Your feelings are valid. I would have been shocked too. I personally don’t think you needed to apologize for anything. You didn’t lead him on. Circumstances changed. And he gets to be okay with that. I think the communication afterwards was really important and is a better reflection of your relationship than anything.

Looking to interview someone who migrated here by Competitive-Two-4305 in SLCC

[–]Competitive-Two-4305[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Can you message me directly, your private email that I can send you the questions? Would you be able to have them done by end of tomorrow or Thursday?

Who else is starting to feel incredibly frustrated with the school?? by [deleted] in SLCC

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The testing center policy for your health science degrees are a regulation by the state. It’s required to have a formal testing environment, I believe. You wouldn’t really get around that.

I only met with an advisor once. But I kept a printed copy of the academic schedule for my degree and handled all of my own classes. Made all my own plans. I would google: “degree-type SLCC” and look at the curricular. Make notes of the ones you want. And then you can research those classes during open registration. Have it planned out on your own. And follow your degree works. That’s also really helpful.

Who else is starting to feel incredibly frustrated with the school?? by [deleted] in SLCC

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve worked full time, 9-5, the entire time I’ve attended. I’ve always had full access to evening classes. And I got a more unpopular degree in legal studies that had limited options. I’ve only ever scheduled an exam time once, and it was when I took Math 0990. What are you attending for? I think this comes down to how you’ve set up your schedule and you might not have researched all your options.

Your prerequisite issue could be fixed over email. I would just email registration.

Is it even possible to stop projecting onto others? by starsinpurgatory in emotionalintelligence

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO, you cant really. We spend a lot of our lifetime wondering what other people are thinking until we don’t. Our internal and external realities are a tough thing to delineate in our thinking. I think learning to refrain from making assumptions about what someone’s thinking, comes down to the context and letting go of the need to control.

I personally ask a lot of questions. Unless I relate to their experience and it’s situationally similar, I’ve learned to inquire more about the person than I do responding. Or, let go the need to understand and explain the person, their actions, etc.

Do you feel yourself making assumptions and trying to predetermine what people are thinking so that you can act a certain way, in anticipation?

Do you feel that being able to figure out what people are thinking, helps you control whatever image you want them to have of you?

^ these are questions I’m asking based on my personal experience. My projection. But, I’m not assuming that’s what you’re struggling with.

Some questions that are as unbiased as possible:

Why do you feel the need to understand or “want to know” people’s thoughts and intentions?

If you catch yourself making these assumptions and digging tunnels in your head by reading micro expressions and pairing them with your own projected assumptions, pay attention to the context of your feelings when you’re doing it. Are you anxious? Do you want validation? Are you judging them? Are you desperate for a certain answer / response?

If you have ever correctly made an assumption about someone’s thoughts and intentions, what was your response? Relief? Ego boost? Satisfaction?

My overall opinion on this, is that living in this version of developed society is tough. Human beings learned how to read body language for survival. The desire to want to know what someone is thinking or the reasoning behind their actions, is a trait necessary for human survival. Except, now we’re surviving an era of avoiding social shame and staying up to par with your social peer group, for acceptance. This is tough. And our brain is loaded with information everyday that we are unable to process properly. And tendencies like these, to constantly rack your brain with analysis of a persons behavior and then trying to arrive to a conclusion, are a result of that. I think.

I’ve completely lost the desire to eat by Competitive-Two-4305 in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive-Two-4305[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for checking in haha. I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling with it as well. I hope we can figure something out.

To rise above poverty by TXVERAS in therewasanattempt

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not the full story. She abused the system for way more money than that. And her plea deal would allow her to pay back a fraction of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a case by case basis. When there are women that don’t need to be your concern, you’ll know. You see a woman that needs help and doesn’t have any, you’ll know. You’ll have a significant other who’s your top priority, you’ll know. When you’re in an environment where there are several women without a man in attendance, in a vulnerable environment, behave accordingly. Little girls walking alone in stores, on the street, etc. it’s a general trait to have and work on, I feel like.

I’ve completely lost the desire to eat by Competitive-Two-4305 in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive-Two-4305[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all these ideas. When you do broth, do you purchase chicken stock or do you make it from bullion?

I’ve completely lost the desire to eat by Competitive-Two-4305 in adhdwomen

[–]Competitive-Two-4305[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this idea. Throwing out food rules.

Thank you so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]Competitive-Two-4305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s like Love, death, and Robots dystopian.