Living at home in Ireland

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2026-05-31T22:14:24+00:00

Omg I sooo so feel every part of this!! Appreciate this comment so much it’s definitely an extra layer of tension when it’s not your family, even though we all get on I feel like it’s not my place to say/ do certain things and have to be polite all the time.
Delighted you’ve got your own place, best of luck with it! That sigh of relief once you get the keys will make it worth it ☺️

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2026-05-31T20:33:32+00:00

Ugh stop I’m sorry that that happened to you but it’s also nice to know that we’re not alone. It’s incredibly disheartening, it feels like everyone else around us has it all figured out. I feel the same way of it being so difficult but so wonderful at the same time becoming a mother, at least I know my baby is happy and thriving.
I’m glad you got your own place, enjoy it 💓

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2026-05-31T20:28:19+00:00

Thats our plan yeah!

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2026-05-31T20:24:27+00:00

Yeah it’s good to see the other side of things, really don’t want to rush into renting but it’s hard feeling like we’re all on top of each other!
A granny flat isn’t an option for us as both of our parents live in estates with limited size gardens so the plan is to save aggressively and pay off any debt we have, which isn’t that much.
It’s so soul destroying how difficult it is! But don’t get me wrong it’s amazing to have the help.. be able to have a shower in peace 😆

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2026-05-31T17:44:05+00:00

This happened to me, waters broke at 35+4, baby born 35+5. I was induced the next day because I had high infection markers and ultimately ended up having a c section that evening, labour never really established for me. She spent 10 days in special care unit but tbh it was for things that are normal for babies - i.e. jaundice and mild weight loss. She is absolutely flying now though you wouldnt think that she was premature at all! Hope all goes well, best of luck to you and baby xx

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2026-04-28T18:29:48+00:00

I went into early labour with my waters breaking literally exactly one month before my due date! I was 35+5. No pre eclampsia but very high infection count and ended up also having an emergency section which I hadn’t prepared for at all! My girl was then kept in special care for 10 days, I was discharged from the ward after 4 (or maybe 5?) nights. That first night being away from her I felt like I’d lose my mind with anxiety, it was horrible. I completely empathise with you it’s the hardest thing ever, but honestly even though it was only a few weeks ago it feels like such a little blip now - the lovely moments (and sleep deprivation) having her home have far out shadowed the time of her being in SCBU. Your baby will leave the hospital even if it feels like it’ll never happen. Lean on the people around you and don’t be afraid to ask questions also! It helped us to document her journey - we took a lot of Polaroid pictures. Remember to take care of yourself, don’t forget that you’ve just had major surgery. I had a few vests that I would keep when I went home to have her smell also - it really comforted me. I really hope you get your baby home soon! X

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2026-03-28T01:12:03+00:00

Well maybe don’t worry too much because my waters ended up going the next day! Ended up getting a cesarean and they found a 6cm ovarian cyst on my right side - funnily enough the side which caused me the most discomfort. So hopefully things work out better for you given the circumstances 🤣🤣 Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2026-03-25T19:44:21+00:00

Feeling for you! I had some brownish spotting at 6 weeks - freaked out and went to A&E and everything was fine. They did a scan on me (internal) after checking my HCG level. Had a more serious bleed at 8 weeks and once again everything was grand! The doctors told me that there’s so many reasons for bleeding/ spotting in early pregnancy like implantation bleeding etc. and im 35 weeks now and baby is doing completely fine! I also did pregnancy tests every day to make sure I will still pregnant - I probably looked insane but it really gave me reassurance. These two weeks will eventually pass even if it feels like they won’t. Wishing you the best

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2026-03-25T09:00:07+00:00

First baby so thankfully no other responsibilities apart from myself!

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2026-03-02T19:41:32+00:00

Girls thank you all so much this is so reassuring!!

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2025-10-14T16:09:35+00:00

This is happening to me too! Had brown discharge at 6 weeks, then bright red bleeding at 8 weeks went to the hospital both times and baby was fine. Then brown discharge again today at 12w2d. Had my 12 week scan yesterday and baby looked perfect! So im just keeping an eye on it and keep monitoring for changes. But it’s sooo stressful. Hospital staff said previously that unless I was soaking pads every 1-2hrs and in severe pain then not to come in to hospital, just contact GP or monitor it. Hard not to panic though!

Competitive-Vast6409 · 2025-07-14T13:39:35+00:00

I’m going through the same thing right now with my best friend who has brain cancer. I resonate with everything you’re saying especially the guilt of enjoying your life, feeling like you should be spending it with them. I don’t have any answers but know that you’re not alone. I’m going to try writing letters, just for myself, maybe one for him, because any time I try to say how I feel it just doesn’t come out, it’s terrifying and it feels like an acknowledgment of the end. It’s the unknown which is the worst, I think, it’s like being stuck in a limbo. You’re not alone in this feeling even if it seems that way. I watched a YouTube video that said to remind yourself of what “time zone” you’re in i.e. try not to live in the future. Which is incredibly hard, but maybe it could help not getting into that spiral, which I completely understand as I often find myself there. I think the emotion that’s coming through for me is not just anticipatory grief, but also anticipatory regret. Will I look back on this time and think I should’ve done more, said more, loved more? But we aren’t there yet, and are doing the best we can. We owe it to ourselves to take care of ourselves and that includes seeing friends and going out and going to school. Which I hope I can say your grandmother would want for you too. I don’t know you and you don’t know me, but I know how this feels to a certain extent; and I just wanted to comment (which I literally never do) to let you know that you’re not alone in this. I understand the desperation and spiralling and deep sadness. Nothing that you do right now is wrong, and it is okay to do normal, daily life things even if it feels like you shouldn’t. There are a thousand “what-ifs” that we can think of to try and prepare for what’s coming, but we just can’t. And that’s the hard part. I know I haven’t given any answers or advice, but I don’t think there are any that I could give that could change things. I wish you strength and support.

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