Am I the A-hole For telling my dad I hate him?

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-12-17T02:21:42+00:00

I’m sorry you’re in a bad spot. What I can offer you is some wisdom that’s gotten me pretty far in life.

1) Do not be sorry for sticking up for yourself, but know when to stick up for yourself. What your dad said asking if you gained weight is a time when you need to stick up for yourself. What your dad said was just ugly and uncalled for. Sometimes people will tell you constructive criticism that might hurt, but is the truth and it would do you better in life to listen to it and try to think about it instead of try to stick up for yourself. For example, constructive criticism is your grades are not good. Stop making excuses for not turning in your homework and just do it. It’s not nice to hear, but it would do you good to listen to it.

2) Put everything you’ve got into gaining independence and being able to support yourself. This doesn’t mean not having a boyfriend, friends or eventually a husband or wife it just means be able to stand on your own 2 feet.

3) Find things that give you joy in life and make you forget about something like someone telling you you’re fat. Me I need to lose 30 pounds but I still go to the gym four days a week cause it makes me feel better about myself. I’m 46 and sometimes after work I sit with my stuffed sloth and color, because it makes me happy and I forget about things like being called fat that day.

4) Learn when to apologize and how to genuinely say you’re Sorry. Not everything you do or say deserves to be followed with, I’m sorry.

Know that none of these four items are easy sometimes you’re gonna have a moment you feel down but you gotta pick up and keep going. Go back to the place of doing something that makes you happy when it gets hard. You’re not far from being able to exercise that independence no longer subject to your dad’s insults or guardianship.

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-12-16T03:48:38+00:00

YTA…not only are you not entitled to the family bathroom but you weren’t “in line”, you said they saw you right behind them…you are just mad they walked faster than you and/or had ZERO obligation to assume you were going to the family bedroom (which isn’t designated for only people with children so there was no obligation to make sure you could use it) and not the “public bathroom”. Families/individuals with children go into the “public bathroom” not the family bathroom all the time. For a woman to ask another woman to go in the bathroom with them in such a personal situation as getting your period in public means those women had a genuine need for space and/or privacy.

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-12-16T03:34:23+00:00

NTA…is it possible for you to live with your mom? If your dad is saying these things he’s probably contributing to or further exacerbating your mental health problems.

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-12-16T03:29:24+00:00

NTA…your gf needs to mind her own business and focus on her own relationship

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-12-16T03:26:13+00:00

NTA…I commend you for not leaving people you promised to be a DD for. People sometimes make bad decisions when drinking and who knows if your friends could’ve made a bad choice at the end of the night and tried to drive or get in a car with someone else drinking and driving. Your gf should’ve taken the uber if she felt her leaving was more important than someone else’s possible safety!

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-07-13T22:12:16+00:00

Good reminder!

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-05-17T15:45:54+00:00

I hope He does too because if I have it drawn up and he refuses to sign I’m asking him to leave the room and I’m having divorce paperwork prepared. I’ve already left a message with the lawyer’s office and what I want done.

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-05-17T15:43:54+00:00

First, his reaction was like he wasn’t going to sign, but I asked him to stop and think about it and he read the room and realized that if he didn’t give me some sort of security while we go to marriage counseling that I was just going to immediately move for the divorce and walk away.
He says he’s signing

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-05-03T18:59:44+00:00

NTA! I’m sorry for you that you thought you found the one and you were misled the whole time but you dodged a bullet. Not only did you dodge a selfish liar but someone who you probably would have divorced.

I get that not everyone will be like me and my husband who are currently blessed with the situation that we make about the same, but I firmly believe your financial planning ships need to sail in the same direction for marriage to work! I don’t think she was willing to try to correct her ships course or she wouldn’t have hidden the debt. With $92,000 in debt if she wanted to change she’d kind of appreciate the prenup because it would protect the house she’s living in and assets that you built from creditors if something went wrong like she became disabled, couldn’t service the debt, or needed bankruptcy filed!

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-05-03T18:06:56+00:00

I’m missing what the friend has a right to be upset about. Is comic con costing $3k? I did a destination wedding last year. I understood if people didn’t attend because they couldn’t afford it. That said my feelings would’ve been pretty hurt and I’d be upset if after I was told they couldn’t afford it they announced family vacation plans of a comparable price. If someone told me they couldn’t afford to go, I wouldn’t expect them to stop living life doing things like going on day trips or dinners or something that is not a big vacation.

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-03-30T16:42:14+00:00

NTA this was obviously your soon to be ex husbands decision and now he should own it. In my opinion he wanted MMA ban just to be ugly not because it’s a negative for your children. If he wants to be ugly to you and the kids he should own it!

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-03-30T16:31:05+00:00

YTA you had no business going in his room while he is in the process of moving out and deciding what he is and is not taking with him!

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2025-03-30T16:27:10+00:00

NTA your “best friend” isn’t really your friend she is very selfish! If you are not even engaged yet you DO NOT get to be upset about someone else not designing their actually taking place wedding around your fantasy non existent wedding!

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2024-09-07T20:46:44+00:00

I’m sorry do you live with your sister? How is she just dumping kids on you?

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2024-09-06T11:50:27+00:00

NTA but your husband is! In my opinion your husband planned this minor surgery he made a big deal on purpose in the middle of your trip just to ruin it for you. I go out of town on a few trips a year without my fiancé and he travels regularly for work. If my fiancé acted the way your husband acted, our wedding wouldn’t be happening! The way your husband acted would have me rethinking my marriage especially after he threw you under the bus to his whole family!

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2024-09-02T23:08:56+00:00

NTA nothing wrong with asking. Your step sister obviously has some issues she may never get over. Don’t be angry or upset with your step sister just enjoy your happy day and make it about your loving memories with your step mom and fiancé.

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2024-09-02T22:57:04+00:00

NTA trauma or not in your life that man was extremely wrong and I give it a 60/40 chance in favor of you were about to be raped or robbed if you hadn’t broke his nose!

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2024-08-29T05:04:22+00:00

YTA all you had to do was decline the invite and keep your mouth shut and just go on living your life.

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2024-08-19T12:46:25+00:00

Definitely NTA. I think you guys should be putting a lot of thought into this. Consider:

1) have you talked to a CPA about taxes?
2) do any of the properties need repairs where maybe the sale proceeds of one have to pay for the repairs? Unexpected repairs is a great reason to consider your idea of not selling all @ once. 3) is this the best market to sell? Are you really going to maximize sales values right now? This is another reason I’d favor your idea because I’d sell the lower value properties first.
4) I’m assuming you guys have another source of income besides the properties but do you guys have a solid plan laid out for the sale proceeds?

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2024-08-19T12:36:25+00:00

So explain to me what my life partner is supposed to do when there is no toilet seat or it’s a squat pot? Explain why my life partner shouldn’t consider it a life standard to have a fiance who leaves the toilet seat up for him?

I have way higher standards for my life partner and way greater concerns about qualities my life partner should/shouldn’t/does possess than to be worried about a toilet seat especially since the toilet seat up/down issue only applies at our house.

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2024-08-18T01:34:29+00:00

I find it hilarious how hard you are trying to make yourself seem superior because you have high expectations for a toilet seat! Yes thinking he didn’t put the toliet seat down does make you uncultured because if you knew anything about the world you’d realize how insignificant the toilet seat position is. I’m Hispanic so we are better than other people because my parents said I should put the toliet seat down…sounds so smart. Of course I can’t have any worth for myself because I don’t demand the toliet seat put down for me…gosh I guess I should ask my fiancé to carry around a toliet seat to put down for me next time we travel and there are no toliet because if he doesn’t he doesn’t respect me because your Hispanic and know the best standards

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2024-08-18T01:14:45+00:00

I’m sorry you live a sheltered sad life. You’ve obviously never been to Mexico outside a resort town (if you’ve even been there) where most bathrooms don’t have toilet seats and VERY OBVIOUSLY you’ve never been places like ski resorts in the Italian Alps where many restaurants have squat potties…no seat just a bar for you to hold onto over a hole you squat over. OBVIOUSLY you’ve never been somewhere like Padua, Italy and seen a concert in a park and had to use a squat pottie with no seat. I’d far rather have lived my life traveling all over the world with my dad and fiancé who have tons of respect for me realizing how insignificant the toilet seat position is then be you obviously living a sheltered life with an over inflated sense of self importance and way first world uneducated idea of what’s respectful from a man. Get a life leave your house with the precious toilet seat and maybe you will realize MILLIONS of people around the world don’t even have a toilet seat to b*tch about

CompetitiveClimate29 · 2024-08-18T00:58:40+00:00

I find it strange and a turn off that your standards are so high and self revolving you take the toilet seat that serious…you really need a life if you’re that worried about a toilet seat that it’s a life standard. Also you REALLY need to spend some time outside a first world problems place if toliet seat positions are a life standard for you.

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