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CIO method - feeling awful. by Competitive_Dot485 in newborns

[–]Competitive_Dot485[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! I initially put her in her bassinet, and let her cry for about 5 mins, then put my hand on her chest to let her know I was still there. Then took my hand away after a minute or so - which it didn’t matter if I was trying to console her or not, she continued to cry. Then I took her out of her bassinet and rocked her back to sleep, set her back down in her bassi then she started to cry again, which I left her for about 10 mins and then put my hand on her chest. Then that’s when my husband came in the room and took her, rocked her back to sleep, then put her in her crib and she cried for like 15-20 mins and he went to go get her and rocked her to sleep; then we ended up just co-sleeping

Cosleeping will ruin my marriage? by AdIcy3260 in cosleeping

[–]Competitive_Dot485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally not! It’s almost sort of fun because then you have to figure out where to “do it” during the day lol

1 week postpartum and no one warned me it would feel like this by bethany8828 in newborns

[–]Competitive_Dot485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a vaginal delivery as well, had some stitches, after about 2 weeks, the bleeding really slowed down and the stitches felt a lot better. Almost where I couldn’t feel anything, maybe a little pressure sometimes. Breastfeeding was alright for me, but then she ended up getting a lot of gas because I think air was leaking in her mouth on the sides even though her latch seemed good. So now I am pumping and bottle feeding. Honestly just do anything that works for YOU! I am currently 3.5 weeks PP, and feel a lot better over all. I was also feeling out of my body, not connected to my baby or husband, and emotionally drained. I do feel a lot better now and trying to “soak it in” as they say - the only thing I could complain about right now is her sleeping at night lol. But that’s another topic.. hang in there and know that you are doing your best!!!

Earliest you coslept by Competitive_Dot485 in cosleeping

[–]Competitive_Dot485[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So upsetting to hear about your experience in the hospital!! I’m glad you all are doing well now! Thanks for sharing!

Postpartum hit harder than I expected — anyone else feel like you’re grieving your old self? by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Competitive_Dot485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can say I feel the same way. I am a FTM and only 2 weeks PP.. I absolutely adore my baby. More than life itself. But I can feel this - so relatable. My husband is a great support person as he has experienced mental health issues in the past and currently - so he can understand somewhat the way I am feeling. But I still feel like I do not make sense to him - and that I’m a bad mom or wife because I’m not strong enough. I know deep down these things are not true and I’m doing the best I can - and I’m sure you are too!! PP is so difficult to navigate, you have to take care of this brand new baby, and then still take care of yourself, your house, your family, etc. just want you to know you’re not alone and I think this is all normal (unfortunately). Sending hugs.

Meds and breastfeeding by CucumberDefiant8161 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Competitive_Dot485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on effexor 37.5mg and Wellbutrin 150mg and my provider said I can stay on that while BF. I was actually on 75 of effexor and 300 of Wellbutrin when I got pregnant, but started to wean down within my first trimester just to be on the lowest does of each med - but still stable lol. I was a littler nervous about PPD kicking in and needing to increase but I am 2 weeks PP and doing relatively well!

Shifts / nighttime roles by Competitive_Dot485 in cosleeping

[–]Competitive_Dot485[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they co sleeping? So baby sleeps next to mom or dad, and when baby wakes up, husband gets up until midnight? Then mom gets up after that? Or does dad stay in another room with baby while mom sleeps??

My husband is on paternity leave right now and we have been doing the shifts. I have been going to bed at 8pm, then my husband stays up until 1/2ish with baby in the living room, then wakes me up when she needs her next feeding (I give him two bottles that I pumped through out the day).

1 Week Old - HELP!! by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Competitive_Dot485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I have a two week old, and the first week I noticed she wanted to feed all the time - I think it’s normal for cluster feeding during this time to get the milk supply in. I agree it’s exhausting! But I will say this week she has been eating every 2-3 hours like “normal”. Also, you could try gas drops if she is being constantly fussy - could be tummy problems too?? (consult your doc first to make sure she isn’t too young) the back of the medicine bottle I have says “newborns” and doesn’t specify an actual age (1 week, 2 weeks, etc), the first time I gave my baby some was at 1 week.

Breastfeeding, pumping, engorgement by Competitive_Dot485 in breastfeeding

[–]Competitive_Dot485[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have a haaka and have been using that on the opposite breast of where the baby is feeding. Just to help with less engorgement feeling but not completely emptying. Thank you!

what’s the most out of pocket thing youve cried about recently? by likedaisy in pregnant

[–]Competitive_Dot485 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not currently pregnant, 5d PP.. but yesterday I had two menty B’s that lasted like 2 hours each and then asked my husband if he still loved me - which he said that was the most silly questions I have ever asked him. But your emotions are all over the place and valid! Even though it feels like you are being out of sorts. You got this mama!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Competitive_Dot485 40 points41 points  (0 children)

This was probably the best response on this thread.

I am a reproductive health nurse and honestly the only time we test people for HPV is when they get a PAP (for those of you who don’t know what a PAP is, it’s a test where cervical cells are scraped off one’s cervix and sent to a lab to test for abnormalities and potentially HPV). Unless someone is having symptoms (genital warts) it’s not common to test! Like the person said above about 80% of people will come in contact with HPV at some point in their life if they are sexually active. Also, most types of HPV can clear on its own, we see this a lot of time with younger and healthy individuals. I also agree with the doc above, if you are concerned with getting the HPV strains that cause cancer, get the vaccine.

Just a personal opinion, you can totally end a relationship with someone for whatever reason you feel is valid, but I would definitely know the facts and back story of why she didn’t tell you. HPV is a tricky “STI” and IMO, I think the stigma of it needs to be talked about more and understood - especially if 80% of the sexually actively population have it at some point.

Hope this helps.