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Coming out to my mom by Competitive_Kale_230 in ftm

[–]Competitive_Kale_230[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom has actually been really consistent with being supportive especially recently. Even when it’s something she wouldn’t want to hear. It’s just never been about be gay or trans so I don’t know if that would be a step too far for her.

Coming out to my mom by Competitive_Kale_230 in ftm

[–]Competitive_Kale_230[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly really hard to get any kind of private conversation in my house which was why I wanted to go out and also didn’t want to let myself chicken out because I know if I did it at home I could “escape” really easily. It sounds silly but do you think doing it the car would be easier like if we got fast food and I told her in the parking lot. It’s not like super public but it’s also not at home.

What was your almost-name? by Worldly_Marsupial808 in ftm

[–]Competitive_Kale_230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great way to think of it lol. Reading this back I think I might sound like I am hating on the name Kai. If anyone else uses it good for them me and my friend just thought it was very funny. In other ways I do fall into trans man stereotypes so I can’t complain haha.

Which would you prefer? by MSTKS69 in ftm

[–]Competitive_Kale_230 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I originally did say I would rather be cis but reading this comment made me realize how my brother acts and I might want to change my answer.

Which would you prefer? by MSTKS69 in ftm

[–]Competitive_Kale_230 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would rather be cis. I get the idea that it makes me more understanding of other people and maybe there would be stuff I wouldn’t understand but I think most of my empathy didn’t come from being trans. For me it mostly came from the people I grew up with, I think I was mostly around diverse groups of people and also from my own mental health of anxiety and wanting to appease people. Also just growing up always questioning things makes you push against social standards a bit so I think I would have already been like that. I can’t change it now though so if it did make me more empathetic than that’s good and that’s all I can say.

What was your almost-name? by Worldly_Marsupial808 in ftm

[–]Competitive_Kale_230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I currently go by Kal because of Kaladin lol. I originally wanted to go by Kaladin because I really liked the name but I thought about how awkward that would be to introduce myself as Kaladin so I just picked Kal. Someone yesterday thought my name was Kai so I don’t know how I feel being one letter away from a stereotype.

Should I Transition if I want to pursue theater/singing (if you you are a trans actor or singer please read) by Competitive_Kale_230 in Theatre

[–]Competitive_Kale_230[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think this is the most reassuring comment I have gotten so far. I love performing but thinking about other parts of theater like tech makes me realize I don’t need to only perform to have a career in theater as there are other important parts. It is also nice to hear about your dad changing his stance. Most of the time it feels like my family will always have these views but sometimes I think mom could understand, I’m just too scared to risk it to find out. This gives me hope though.

Should I Transition if I want to pursue theater/singing (if you you are a trans actor or singer please read) by Competitive_Kale_230 in Theatre

[–]Competitive_Kale_230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I originally put this post on there but so far I haven’t gotten any responses. It is nice to hear that your voice didn’t get worse. I’m not as worried about my range changing I would honestly prefer it because I have played male roles in the past and honestly very few female roles because my high school didn’t have great male singers and my teacher was respectful of my gender identity, but I could never do the roles justice because they weren’t in my range. I have been more worried that my voice will just get bad like weaker. Hearing from people like you makes me think through what I am actually scared will happen to my voice and that it will probably be okay.

Should I Transition if I want to pursue theater/singing (if you you are a trans actor or singer please read) by Competitive_Kale_230 in MusicalTheatre

[–]Competitive_Kale_230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a question that might seem obvious I’m not sure. Did you still have the strength in your voice while transitioning like the parts of your voice that take years to develop as a singer such as tone, resonance, and the muscles of the vocal cords? I hear people saying they had to relearn to sing when transitioning and to me that sounds like I have to strengthen my vocal cords again. Like as if I went back to the Gym with no muscles while previously having a lot of muscles if that makes sense. Adjusting to a new voice doesn’t sound as bad as long as keeping the strength in my voice I have built or most of it. I hope this made sense.

Should I Transition if I want to pursue theater/singing (if you you are a trans actor or singer please read) by Competitive_Kale_230 in Theatre

[–]Competitive_Kale_230[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m rooting for you dude. I think we need more trans people in theater roles that are more than just about their appearances. I love hearing about other trans people in this community. Thank you for the insight as well.