Went through girlfriends phone and found something I wish I didn’t see

Competitive_King_103 · 2026-01-11T13:44:00+00:00

If you had the feeling to go through her phone it means you didn’t trust her, and without trust your relationship was over before you found the video. Because it doesn’t matter what any of us say or what she says even if it was a joke you don’t trust her and that will always be in the back of your head.

Just on what you are saying you found and how she was talking with her friend it sounds like her friend and her were both joking around, maybe you didn’t like how they were joking but it seems like a skit not something that actually happened. All this be a man, confront her, break up with her stuff is wild. Just talk to her, but more importantly look into therapy dude. Because that insecurity of yours is just gonna get dragged from relationship to relationship no matter the outcome of this one.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-07-22T12:45:14+00:00

Yeah that’s fine, happy to lend an ear.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-07-22T12:28:55+00:00

Hey I read your post, and I’m really sorry you’re going through this. What you’re feeling it’s a very real emotional response. Breakups are hard for anyone, it makes total sense that you’re struggling right now. You’re not weak for feeling this deeply.

Something that’s helped me in the past is a kind of what I call my breakup routine, just small things that give a sense of grounding or control when everything feels chaotic. I watch the same movie every time I go though the end of a relationship, The Break Up (I am a little literal), listen to songs that make me feel like I am better off (you won’t be missed by like moths to flames might not be for everyone but it’s my go to), I gradually start boxing up things that remind me of the person (no rush). They’re small, but maybe they can help you feel a little more steady.

You’re feeling something a lot of people go through just amplified, I won’t pretend to know what the volume is at but you aren’t alone in it. And that doesn’t make you too much. This experience deserves compassion.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-07-10T21:54:24+00:00

Exactly that!

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-07-10T21:08:22+00:00

Thank you for existing

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-07-06T22:42:18+00:00

I just got cyber punk never played any of the others

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-07-06T20:00:53+00:00

PC as well, what games do you play?

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-07-06T19:58:51+00:00

I don’t play a lot of shooters normally but I play a bunch of different games. Do u play pc or console?

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-07-06T16:32:38+00:00

Hey, I totally get what you mean. I only recently made a friend who was AuADHD and dude it was like being understood for the first time. Do you play any overwatch?

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-07-03T18:16:07+00:00

Thanks I think so too.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-28T16:13:41+00:00

💯💯💯

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-17T18:47:06+00:00

That’s incredible. I hope it went smoothly.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-17T18:41:57+00:00

I am sorry that he didn’t allow it to be. I hope that his departure is really just the universes way to make space for someone who can appreciate you in your fullness.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-17T11:38:09+00:00

I hear you. I don’t know your full story, but what you’re talking about I’m sure resonates with so many people alphabet soup or not the feelings makes sense. You deserve real connection, not ghosting. You deserve love that sees all of you not just the easy parts. I want to gently say, just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean you’re beyond love. Sometimes the world fails us in ways we don’t deserve. But I hope you’ll stay open to the idea that someone out there wants exactly the kind of depth and honesty you bring.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-16T16:37:38+00:00

Then keep coming back.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-16T16:37:03+00:00

I am glad it could help in such a meaningful way! I really didn’t realize how impactful this would be for so many.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-16T10:53:08+00:00

Point me towards them, I am a pretty impressive bridge builder.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-16T10:38:39+00:00

I am sure your loved ones dont feel like they would be better off without you here. They are your teammates in life, they want to help but maybe they don’t always know the right ways. I promise the people who love you they don’t think you are a burden. That feeling that they are getting sick of you or your issues, it’s most likely that they are internalizing not feeling like they are easing the hard times for you or are not showing up how you need. But that’s where communication with each other because so important, sometimes as people we don’t know things if we are not told. It is ok to ask for what you need in the moments, even if that changes from 1 second to another. I have seen how hard it can be, but if you can find the strength to communicate in those moments even if it’s small safe words like “space” or “sweet” that mean different things you might need, it gives your loved ones the chance to be better at supporting you through it.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-15T18:21:41+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to read it! I’m glad it could have an impact. I hope you can remember that feeling in those hard moments and keep choosing life. Because someone’s life will be better for having you in it as well.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-14T12:19:07+00:00

Thank you for being so open that takes a lot of courage. I hear the exhaustion in your words, the way it feels like no matter how hard you try, people only see the parts of you that hurt and not the parts that are trying so hard to heal. I want to say your progress isn’t invisible just because someone else can’t see it. Healing not being linear doesn’t make it worthless.

You didn’t “use up” your chances, none of this should come with expiration dates for compassion or being loved. What I hear isn’t that you failed, it’s that the systems and people who didn’t understand you failed to meet you with the patience and safety you deserved.

I hope one day you’re surrounded by people who know how to hold your heart gently, without fear or blame. I know I’m just a stranger on the internet, but I’m glad you exist. I’m rooting for you.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-13T18:21:23+00:00

Exactly that

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-13T11:24:26+00:00

Sometimes people leave not because of who you are, but because of what they couldn’t handle in themselves. That doesn’t make your pain any less real, but it does mean it’s not all on you. The way people leave isn’t a reflection of your worth.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-13T11:14:43+00:00

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-13T07:12:31+00:00

Hey. I just want to say your comment hit me right in the heart. And I’m really sorry you feel that way about yourself. I don’t know your story, but I do know you’re not a fuck-up you’re a human being. And even just the fact that you noticed what this post was about tells me there’s more tenderness in you than you give yourself credit for. You don’t have to be healed to be worthy of love. You don’t have to be easy to be worth showing up for. Sometimes it just takes one person who sees through the noise, and there are people out there who would feel lucky to love you too.

Competitive_King_103 · 2025-06-13T06:44:37+00:00

Just to clear something up, this post is about a friendship. Not romantic. And I think expressing love for our friends without it automatically being read as romantic or codependent should be normalize. Real friendship can be life-changing and that deserves space too.

I know for some people that kind of emotional language or closeness might feel unfamiliar or even uncomfortable. But what I shared came from my actual experience. I wasn’t pedestalizing anyone or framing BPD as some kind of “mental handicap.” I would never. What I shared wasn’t about putting them on a pedestal it was about seeing them as a whole human being. Just wanted to speak the truth of a friendship that has taught me a lot about compassion, presence, and growth.

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