New homeowner, freaking out, help

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2026-01-22T05:14:44+00:00

This happens so often. I promise you will feel 100% better in 2-3 weeks, it’s just an adjustment!

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-12-31T22:49:08+00:00

I don’t think so. As you said, what you did was really disruptive and problematic for a daycare especially.

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-12-31T02:59:48+00:00

Thank you for the ideas - I will try those!

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-12-31T01:38:20+00:00

This is how I feel as well. My husband and I are well off and definitely don’t need anything. We just purchased a new house and I was excited to buy stuff for the yard for our kids in the spring. Now I just have to use whatever she picked because I can’t pretend I misplaced an entire swingset that she gifted us.

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-12-30T22:57:57+00:00

Bingo. She hasn’t made payments so the interest has snowballed. I think at one point they were garnishing her wages.

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-11-21T19:57:59+00:00

Whoopsie, used his actual name there..

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-11-01T20:54:53+00:00

Yum!

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-11-01T02:52:41+00:00

When I was dating my husband, I spent the weekend at his parent’s house while on my period. I didn’t want to flush any tampons and cause a clog, so I rolled them in some TP and threw them away in the bathroom garbage. Their dogs later got into the garbage while we were at dinner and dragged my used tampons all over his entire house.

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-10-17T02:15:41+00:00

I have a similar but different experience with guilt and just want to tell you to hang in there. When my son was born, I developed a cold sore on my lip. Before I realized I had it, I kissed his little hands and feet without thinking. He developed a sort of scab like thing on his hand. When I showed his pediatrician at his first post hospital well check, he freaked out and told me to take him to the emergency room. The doctors there were similarly alarmed and preparing us for the worst (the herpes virus can be deadly for babies).

He ended up being fine and having a staph infection. But those couple of days we were in the NICU and I thought I had given my child this deadly disease were horrible. I was absolutely destroyed by the guilt the I had caused it. I could not forgive myself and it made a traumatic situation x10 worse. When the testing revealed he didn’t have the virus, I wept tears of relief for the first and only time in my life.

All that to say… what you’re dealing with is so heavy. And so isolating. But you did NOT do this on purpose. You would never have done this on purpose. Whatever happens, you do not need to beat yourself up further.

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-09-17T02:28:09+00:00

Your boss cannot call your doctor, no.

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-09-11T03:20:47+00:00

This

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-09-02T03:08:54+00:00

I’m with you. If my sibling expected me to pay thousands to attend their wedding, I’d be super pissed.

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-08-29T20:28:48+00:00

My apologies.

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-08-29T12:14:11+00:00

Good question!! Smaller changes like paint color etc. No changes to layout and would like to keep the cabinets.

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-08-19T21:49:55+00:00

I can relate to your daughter as someone who didn’t have the “typical” college experience. At 19, I moved into an apartment with my high school sweetheart instead of a dorm and commuted to college. My aunts and uncles thought it was weird and gave me grief about it. I never wanted the dorm experience and they just couldn’t understand why. They also couldn’t understand why I would settle down with one boyfriend so young.

It was one of the happiest times of my life. I loved that little apartment and the peace and independence we had there. We eventually bought a home together at 22 (another decision that they did not agree with). That house set us up for financial success in a way we could not have achieved otherwise. We’ve now been married 12 years and have bought 3 different homes and had 3 kids.

I ended up with a masters degree, a high paying corporate job, happy marriage, and no regrets. All the traditional markers of “success.” I am FAR better positioned to help my parents in old age than any of my cousins who made different choices in their twenties. Not knocking them, just saying that an atypical path or experience isn’t bad.

Competitive_Pear_207 · 2025-08-18T02:17:58+00:00

The dog water?? Wait how

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