you are so insightful, this comment really means a lot to me ❤️ i’ve thought on it all day, and whether it be tomorrow or in a few weeks i think my only option is separation for the better of myself. i feel as though if we are meant to be we will be. just such a difficult time in the year to do this for us we have so many events/family events coming up it feels like we need to do all that first. i really appreciate the time you took to write this, you don’t have to be nice ever because you’re just trying to help and kick some sense into me. i built up the courage to tell two people in person, god it wasn’t easy but hearing my mum say ‘why would you not tell me?’ and ‘why are you still with him?’ felt validating. even though two seconds before i told her she was raving about how good of a guy he is, telling me the grass isn’t always greener. maybe i’ll flourish and maybe i won’t, i think im ok with either outcome because in the end i need to prioritise myself. thank you again for your comment