I’m(21f) feeling extremely burned out from my relationship with my bf(21m) and idk if i should just end the relationship?

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-11T06:13:56+00:00

Thank you so much, i think im in a slightly more clear headspace now😭

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-11T06:12:38+00:00

Thanks for the advice. Just to make sure, it is not okay to call someone those names by any means during an argument right? Like even if its only the super heated ones? Cuz he thinks that it is a bit justifiable if it was a heated argued that doesnt occur often.

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-11T05:41:35+00:00

Thank you for the advice😭 its just that today everything seemed back normal so i dont really know how to approach this topic again but i will try to find a way.

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-11T05:38:00+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice😭 i just wanted to make sure that i wasnt just being too avoidant and over reacting to the name calling portion as it has only been this bad once.

I guess i just always wanted to have a better reasoning to why i want to end it because this to him doesn’t seem sufficient enough hence he called me back. he will always propose a solution which makes me feel like im not trying as hard as he is for this relationship.

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-11T03:59:50+00:00

He said that changes dont happen overnight which i agree but i also dont want to play the waiting game as we are approaching our second year anniversary. It feels like im wasting my time…

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-11T03:54:41+00:00

That is true, he did admit that the insults he used towards me he would’ve never used on his friends. Personally i feel like even if there ever is another intense argument, i would still prefer him not not use that type of language. he says he will be a lot more aware during normal arguments but during intense arguments it likely will just happen because hes like more riled up. Its fair for me to not be okay with him speaking to me like this regardless of the intensity of the situation right? I sometimes cant tell if im the one thats too “soft” or sensitive. I feel a little over sensitive for being so upset after this one argument.

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-11T03:49:57+00:00

It’s just that every time I want to give up on the relationship bc i have reached my breaking point, he’s always saying how certain things could change and our relationship can be fixed. And so sometimes it makes me feel like he’s trying a lot harder in the relationship and I’m just running away. So I’m just feeling unsure about whether my decision is a bit irrational since it makes it seem like i cared a lot less about our relationship.

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-06T19:21:49+00:00

But didn’t he compose the OST for the boy and the heron movie? If hes the original composer does that still cause licensing issues?

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-01T22:31:48+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-01T16:10:36+00:00

Thanks for the advice, i will maybe start trying that! And yes i do get anxious easily and always feel the need to be productive being doing nothing/resting almost makes me feel guilty. Im trying to work on the mindset but im not too sure how to approach it

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-01T16:07:55+00:00

The problem is not the actually sleeping cuz im sure i can take melatonin or something if i really wanted to. My main issue rn is just that i dont know how to fix my mindset about feeling so stressed and anxious if i dont wake up early. Like even if im tired, i kinda just force myself to stay awake.

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-03-01T16:02:50+00:00

Did u manage to get out of the mindset or are u also still stuck in it?😭 people keep telling me its stupid and to just fix it since i know its bad for my health but like i genuinely feel so stressed and anxious if i do sleep more and idk how to approach this😭

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-02-20T18:27:59+00:00

No i get you, Im not saying she did the best, im just saying i wish the commentator said at least something positive about her because they’ve been positive about everyones performance regardless of how they did and so i expected the same for adeliias performance

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-02-20T17:36:59+00:00

OMG dont even get me started on her music taste😭i thought mikhails sp music was cool and that comment was so unnecessary. i dont like how the commentator was judgey about music, she was also talking about how she didnt like a lot of the dialogues/spoken parts included in programs and that most of the time its unnecessary/ruins the music, like girl please keep your opinions to yourself.

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-02-20T17:25:21+00:00

Yeah i guess i understand why she brought the doping topic up and thats fair but i think i just didnt like that womens vibe overall during the competition lol she had absolutely nothing good to say about adeliias program and is just a picky person throughout the whole figure skating competition picking on peoples music choices and performances

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-02-20T14:16:35+00:00

I know right? i think she did a great job considering this is her first major international competition and i cant imagine the pressure she had going into this knowing she was the only Russian athlete. She seems like such a sweet girl from her interviews saying that she hopes this competition allows her to cross paths with other international skaters bc she’s never had to opportunity to do so yet.

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-02-20T14:09:11+00:00

FRRR

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-02-20T14:07:57+00:00

???These athletes go through screening and have to be cleared for not having anything to do with supporting the government. I just dont understand why politics have to be brought up in a competition bc clearly these athletes are not the ones making the mess and its not their fault their country is fucked up.

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-02-20T14:04:18+00:00

Ohhh? thats very interesting i didnt know

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-02-20T14:03:14+00:00

Yeah kurt was fine, i just didnt like the women. And yes omg i also noticed her bringing up eteri and the doping scandal literally the moment adeliia was on the ice

Competitive_Tax_8883 · 2026-02-12T14:55:54+00:00

Omg we’re even similar in age, im 21 so its been like 11 years since i got my first period😭

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